Perché continuiamo a fare sempre gli stessi errori? | Filippo Ongaro & Gloria Vangelista

We tend to approach problems with the same mental patterns, and this leads us to make the same mistakes over and over again. In this video, I give tips to stop making the same mistakes over and over again. 📌 To start having a different perspective on problems and, above all, on solutions, you need a change, and you can learn this with the video course "Start the Change"👉 https://hubs.ly/H0hwVDP0 #stopmakingmistakes #howtofaceproblems 👊 HELP ME HELP YOU: If you'd like to receive personalized content to add value to your life and receive updates on courses and offers, then sign up now at this link 👉: https://hubs.ly/H0hBy7X0 🔴 Here's the page with all my courses: https://hubs.ly/H0hHDC30 The information contained in this video is purely informative. 👉 https://www.filippo-ongaro.com/discla... Sometimes it almost seems as if the repetition of an error is linked precisely to the attempted solution the person tries to implement in the face of the problem. So a challenge presents itself, a problem presents itself, and the way I try to solve that problem is actually exactly what leads me to repeat the same mistake over and over again. It's precisely about this mechanism between events, errors, and attempted solutions that I wanted to ask a friend of mine, Gloria Vangelista, an expert, a psychologist, and a psychotherapist, how she sees this mechanism and why she thinks it occurs so frequently in people. GLORIA VANGELISTA To answer your question, I'd like to tell you the story of a mule that every morning had to carry a very heavy load of wood from the farm to the mountain cabin. One night, a storm breaks out and lightning knocks down a tree in the middle of the road. The next morning, our mule finds itself with the trunk in front of it and says, "This shouldn't be here," so it doesn't stop, but instead comes forward and gets a good, hard headbutt. It feels so bad, but since it's a mule, it says, "I want to move this because this shouldn't be here," and so it takes a longer run-up and bangs, a harder headbutt. And so it persists, with increasingly longer runs, with increasingly harder headbutts, and as you can imagine, our mule doesn't come to a good end; it dies with a smashed head. We humans aren't actually that different. Giorgio Nardone's work has shown that we have a sort of manufacturing defect whereby we tend to insist on repeating solutions that don't work, but we repeat them because they've worked in the past or because we've successfully applied them in similar situations, forgetting, however, that similar doesn't mean exactly the same. It's a process called generalization, whereby we tend to recognize rather than understand. We tend to transform our successes into replicable patterns by association. Let me give you an example: if you're an efficient company manager who controls everything, organizes everything, and plans everything, and you've achieved success in your profession, you'd most likely tend to replicate this approach in other contexts, such as in your private life, with your family, with your wife. So you'll try to organize everything, control her, and plan things, and she might rebel, and you, thinking you haven't done it well, will persist and try to do it even better, to control her even more. Do you remember that character played by Verdone Furio with Magda, who when she was alone would say nothing but "I can't take it anymore," and unfortunately, we often don't realize that by implementing solutions that don't work, by persisting, we not only fail to solve the problem, but very often make it even worse. Oscar Wilde said: most of the time, with the best intentions, we achieve the worst results. When we discover, perhaps by chance, that a certain type of behavior solves a problem, we tend to generalize, wanting to use the same strategy for problems we consider similar, but which may not be similar or in completely different conditions. So that attempted solution that worked once will never work again. But since we perceive it as a successful pattern, we try to repeat it, and that's where the error is repeated. So, a very important thing on a strategic level is to analyze not only the problem when you see something repeatedly not working as desired, but also the attempted solution you've implemented, because sometimes it's precisely through a different approach to the solution that the problem begins to disappear.