We're all a Little Bit Narcissistic: Myths, the Science & the Stigma behind Personality Disorders

Personality disorders are some of the most misunderstood mental health conditions and because of that, they're often surrounded by fear, shame, and misinformation. In this episode of Permission to Heal, Kelly sits down with fellow Registered Psychotherapist and Alli Therapy alumni, Anthony Colonello, to unpack what personality disorders really are, how they develop, and why the conversation around them needs more compassion and less stigma. Together, they explore the role of genetics, trauma, and early life experiences, why a diagnosis isn't a life sentence, and how effective treatment and support can help people build meaningful, fulfilling lives. They also dive into one of the internet's favourite buzzwords: narcissism and Anthony explains why narcissistic traits exist on a spectrum, why the term is so often misused online, and how casually labeling people can do more harm than good. Whether you're living with a personality disorder, supporting someone who is, or simply wanting to better understand these often misunderstood diagnoses, this episode offers practical insights, hope, and a more compassionate perspective. This episode is for you if: You've been diagnosed with a personality disorder and are looking for hope and understanding You're curious about how personality disorders develop You want to understand the difference between mental health conditions like anxiety and depression, personality traits and personality disorders You're confused by the way terms like "narcissist" are used on social media. You're supporting a loved one with a personality disorder and want to better understand their experience. And find Anthony Colonello at his practice, DeNovo Psychotherapy! https://www.denovopsychotherapy.ca 🎙 Hosted by Kelly Kozluk, Registered Psychotherapist and host of Permission to Heal 📩 Share this episode with someone who might need it ⭐ Follow, rate, and review to help us continue bringing these conversations into the light At Alli Therapy, we make mental health support accessible and affordable for everyone. Visit alli.io to book a session with an intern therapist (your first session is free, and sessions start at $45 after) or connect with an associate therapist starting at $115.