How to Set Boundaries After an Affair (What Actually Works!)

As a couple navigates the road to recovery after an affair, the betrayed partner usually wants to know what boundaries will be put in place to prevent it from happening again. Having counseled thousands of couples in the areas of sex addiction, infidelity, and porn addiction, Dr. Doug Weiss has walked this road successfully for over 30 years. Here, he clarifies how couples can set clear, enforceable boundaries after infidelity to help rebuild trust and create real safety in the relationship. Dr. Weiss clarifies what boundaries are, why they must be clearly defined and agreed upon together, and the need for consequences if they are violated. He also addresses the importance of working with a therapist who’s trained in infidelity recovery and doing a polygraph and factual disclosure in order to restore healing and transparency. While there may be multiple reasons an affair occurs, the responsibility always belongs to the person who chose to have one. If you are trying to rebuild your marriage after infidelity, this conversation will give you clarity and direction for true, healthy recovery. Heart to Heart Counseling Center specializes in partner betrayal trauma, affair recovery, sex addiction recovery, and marriage restoration. We offer individual counseling, couples counseling, and 3–5 day intensives designed to accomplish months of work in just a few focused days. To schedule an appointment with a therapist trained in infidelity recovery, call 719-278-3708. Watch Dr. Doug Weiss’ in-depth video about Boundaries here: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/b... Check out our betrayed partner healing materials here: Partner Betrayal Trauma book: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/p... Partner Betrayal Trauma Video Download: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/p... The Betrayed Man Video Download: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/t... You can also download Dr. Doug Weiss’ in-depth teaching titled “After Infidelity” here: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/a... Visit our Partner Betrayal Trauma website for more resources on this topic: https://partnerbetrayaltrauma.org/ For information and resources for sex addiction, check out https://www.sexaddict.com/ Learn more about Intimacy Anorexia, click here: https://intimacyanorexia.com/ To learn more about our counseling services, visit: https://www.drdougweiss.com/relations... For more information about our intensive program to get a lot of help in recovering from Sex Addiction, Partner Betrayal Trauma, or Intimacy Anorexia, visit: https://www.drdougweiss.com/intensives/ To join one of our many support groups, visit the following links: Phone Groups: https://www.drdougweiss.com/groups/ Free Facebook Groups: https://www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-... Visit the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy to find a certified therapist and other helpful resources: https://aasat.org/ To sign up for our free weekly newsletter and get information on our helpful resources and services, go to: https://www.drdougweiss.com/#:~:text=... #drdougweiss #intimacyanorexia #sexaddiction #partnerbetrayaltrauma #betrayaltrauma #counseling #therapy #AffairRecovery #InfidelityRecovery #MarriageHealing #BetrayalTrauma #RebuildTrust #DrDougWeiss 0:00 The Affair Person Is 100% Responsible 1:01 The Partner’s Questions About Boundaries 1:44 What Boundaries Are 2:10 It’s Best To Do Boundaries Together 2:33 Things To Consider in Boundaries 3:26 Have Boundaries Written Down 3:38 Setting Consequences 4:30 Recovery Boundaries 5:23 Pain From Consequences 5:56 How Partners Can Verify 6:32 Polygraphs & Disclosure 9:22 Removing Opportunity and Secrecy 10:41 Partner’s Intuition Story 11:42 Final Thoughts