Codependency and Healthy Dependency with Nedra Glover Tawwab | Being Well

Protect your peace, set boundaries, don't let people drain your energy…there’s a lot of advice like that, and it’s easy to take it a little too far. Therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab joins me to discuss the unintended consequences of the boundaries movement. We talk about how the helpful concept of boundaries led some toward isolation and rigid standards, the spectrum from codependency to hyper-independence, why your attachment style is more flexible than you think, and how the stories we tell about ourselves become self-fulfilling. We focus on developing key aspects of healthy dependency: being able to ask for help, receive support, tolerate distance, feel comfortable in closeness, and repair after conflict.  About our Guest: Nedra Glover Tawwab is a licensed therapist, relationship expert, and best-selling author with over 2 million followers on social media. Key Topics: 0:00 Intro: Misconceptions around boundaries 7:14 What we get wrong about codependency 11:13 The consequences of individualism 15:00 How this all relates to attachment styles 21:05 Sponsor: Huel 22:50 Personal narratives and self-concept 26:50 Opposite action vs. trusting your gut 34:42 Navigating distance and boundaries in relationships 47:11 Sponsor: Shopify 48:51 "Our presence is an agreement to the conditions of the relationship" 55:51 How to move out of the shallow zone in relationships 1:07:20 Recap I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice. Sponsors: Limited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code BEINGWELL at https://huel.com/BEINGWELL. New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/beingwell. Subscribe to Being Well on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1... Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth. Subscribe to Rick on YouTube:    / @rickhanson   Get Rick's Free Newsletters: https://rickhanson.com/writings/newsl... Follow Rick Here: 🌍 https://rickhanson.com/ 📸   / rickhansonphd   You can follow me here: 🎤 https://apple.co/38ufGG0 🌍 https://www.forresthanson.com 📸   / f.hanson