1 Relationship 2 Truths My Polyamorous Partner Betrayed Me: Where Should We Begin? With Esther Perel

On this week's episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: She’s reeling from a relationship that brought both deep love and deep betrayal. After discovering that her boyfriend had been lying about the terms of their polyamorous arrangement, she’s left struggling to reconcile the intimacy they shared with the deception that shattered it. Esther helps her understand how to integrate these two truths and the transformative power of honoring both love and pain in the journey toward healing. Chapters 00:00 What happens when two truths collide? 00:34 How do love and loss blur together? 01:09 The Polyamorous Journey: Can openness protect a heart or break it? 01:38 The Betrayal Unfolds. 02:49 How do you hold on when nothing feels certain? 03:50 Seeking Context and Understanding 07:00 The Infidelity Revealed 07:58 How do you face the person who broke your trust? 11:44 What helps when everything hurts? 18:38 How do you move through messy emotions? 23:07 The Coexistence of Love and Lies 24:56 What do you do when every feeling is real at once? 29:28 The Revelation and Its Aftermath 31:59 Reflecting on the Relationship 42:17 What can the body express that words can’t? 44:43 What meaning do you find in the end? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com(https://bit.ly/3NWZ4OA) or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram. For more exclusive bonus content, join Entre Nous with Esther Perel on Substack (https://bit.ly/46eA0Ja).

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