How To “Keep” The Avoidant (Just Have No Needs…)

How do you “keep” an avoidant? According to a lot of relationship advice online… • Never ask for reassurance. • Don’t bring up problems. • Give them unlimited space. • Don’t have expectations. • Don’t be “needy.” But here’s the problem… That isn’t secure attachment. That’s self-abandonment. In this video, I break down why so much social media advice about “keeping” or “winning back” an avoidant can unintentionally teach people to suppress their own needs, walk on eggshells, and become even more anxiously attached. Healthy relationships aren’t built by becoming smaller so someone else feels comfortable. They’re built when both people can communicate needs, tolerate intimacy, repair conflict, and show up consistently. If you’ve ever felt like you had to silence yourself just to keep someone from leaving, this video is for you. 👇 Let me know in the comments: What’s the worst relationship advice you’ve ever been given about avoidants? 📌 Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people and build secure relationships instead? 👉 Work with me: https://www.coachryanllc.com 📱 Follow for daily attachment content: Instagram: @coach_ryan_h Disclaimer: This video discusses common attachment-related patterns and relationship dynamics. Not everyone with an avoidant attachment style behaves the same way, and attachment exists on a spectrum. This content is educational and is not a substitute for mental health treatment. #AttachmentTheory #AvoidantAttachment #DismissiveAvoidant #EmotionalAvailability #Relationships #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #AttachmentStyles #Healing #CoachRyan