Certain Sound Ep. 25: Relationships and Dating Part 2, Stages of Dating and Boundaries

In this second part on dating Vanessa Abrego, Joshua Abrego, and Morgan Ellis share advice and guiding principles on the stages of dating, and emotional and physical boundaries. Disclaimer: this episode is intended for young adults who are ready to begin pursue people of interest for marriage. 00:0:00 Question: What are the different stages of a relationship, dating to marriage? 00:02:19 The first dating stage: interest or curiosity 00:02:25 Should we get rid of the “talking” stage? Interest vs Talking 00:05:22 How the concept of Romance has overburdened the dating process 00:07:05 Courtship vs Dating school of thought for relationships 00:09:16 Dating is important for young adults that do not have large church communities 00:13:21 Sometimes ladies think too far into the future when considering a guy 00:16:26 Protip: Discover the other person for yourself, don’t let others define them for you 00:24:24 The importance of getting dating advice and insight from the right people 00:26:41 The second dating stage: dating with verbalized commitment 00:31:22 This dating advice is direct to young adults, not teenagers 00:32:34 Engagement is the only kind relationship that is recognized by God in the Bible 00:35:20 Pro tip: If you are not ready to ask someone on a date, create a group situation to hang out 00:35:34 Opinions on “sliding into DMs” and ethical ways to go about it 00:39:35 Problems with developing a texting relationship: importance of real interaction 00:42:34 Go into the wild of live dialogue and conversation 00:43:34 Question: why are the boundaries of each dating stage important? 00:46:41 Caution for dating culture in Bible college 00:55:46 The ramifications of couples hurting each other 00:56:08 Using timelines and goals as tools to keep healthy emotional boundaries 00:58:29 When a relationship grows it by nature presses against emotional boundaries 1:04:29 I critical need to safeguard emotional, time, and investment boundaries 1:06:08 Question: how to maintain healthy moral body language? 1:06:17 Principles for physical boundaries in dating 1:14:25 Cautions for moral body language, flirting, and showing bodily interest 1:16:49 The importance of being honest and real with your intentions 1:22:13 These are principles that even apply to marriage 1:27:04 Affection is not evil; it is good and beautiful within its proper order 1:29:53 Question: why does the feelings of love get confused with spiritual confirmation 1:30:30 The essence of God is love 1:34:13 How to overcome the heart to make wise choices 1:35:14 why the concept that “love is blind” is neurologically accurate 1:41:44 Choose God and His will over yourself 1:43:24 Question: Should a young man continue to pursue the same girl? 1:46:34 Women should respect and honor young men that choose to pursue them 1:49:24 The reason why young men do not practice initiative 1:50:28 Question: do you have a right to “take dibs” on anyone? 1:51:42 There’s nothing wrong with pursuing the same person, but there are consequences 1:52:54 More maturity should be practiced in permitting each other to pursue 1:57:18 Bitterness and singleness: The importance of letting go of the past 1:57:57 Question: is it ethical to pursue someone who is already dating someone 1:59:49 Question: is there such thing as “the one”? 2:21:34 Bonus Question: Can a man date a girl that is older? Joshua Abrego has a PhD (University of Birmingham, UK) in theology and Religion. Vanessa holds a BA in Bible and Theology (Christian Life College). Together they pastor the young married families of Christian Life Center in Stockton, CA. Morgain Ellis holds an Master of Divinity (Multnomah University). He also serves as the young adult pastor at Christian Life Center and campus pastor at Christian Life College in Stockton, CA. See Relationships and Dating part 1 here:    • Certain Sound Ep. 20: Relationships and Da...   What is The Certain Sound (TCS)? The Certain Sound is an Apostolic channel geared to young adults where we discuss many different topics on faith, life, and ministry. The name of this podcast was inspired by a particular passage of Scripture found in 1 Corinthians 14:8 “For if the trumpet makes an uncertain sound, who will prepare for battle?”. This channel seeks to do is discover and discuss the certain sound in the Word of God for many different areas that encompass the Christian life. Follow The Certain Sound on Instagram: https://instagram.com/thecertainsound... Listen to The Certain Sound on Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... #apostolic #apostolicpodcast #dating #christiandating #relationships #pentecostal #upci #christian #spirituality #clcstockton #apostolicpodcast #boundaries #date #love #commitment