Healthy Boundaries | TWOII podcast | Episode #46

In episode 46, Zen Buddhist monk Brother Phap Huu and journalist Jo Confino talk about healthy boundaries. In this busy and complex world is it possible to remain open and vulnerable whilst also ensuring our safety and protection? This question is answered via stories from the Buddha’s time and Thich Nhat Hanh’s life and teachings, as well as from the presenters’ own life experiences. Brother Phap Huu further shares about practicing awareness; the two protectors: the warrior and the bodhisattva; teaching and the importance of understanding those you teach; deep listening and loving speech; friendships that end and being OK with someone not loving us; setting boundaries with people who have passed away; and creating a bodhisattva heart. Also, if there’s no self, why are we protecting it? Jo shares about courage and communication; speaking the truth; protecting ourselves from abusive behavior; loving people from a distance; change and shifting boundaries; and the power of presence. The episode ends with a short meditation guided by Brother Phap Huu. Timestamps: 00:00:00 Intro 00:02:21 Practicing Awareness; The Two Protectors: The Warrior and the Bodhisattva 00:08:00 Can We Always Be Compassionate? 00:09:03 Teaching Starts with Understanding Each Students; Deep Listening and Loving Speech 00:16:25 Toxic Work Environments and Deep Listening 00:20:57 Courage and Communication; Speaking the Truth 00:23:28 Compassion and Protecting from Abusive Behavior 00:24:30 Taming the Wild Horse 00:34:49 Anger and Defensiveness: How to Respond 00:43:18 Why it’s Best to Send that Email Message in the Morning; Revenge and Distance 00:44:36 Loving People from a Distance and Setting Boundaries with People Who Passed Away 00:47:14 Friendships that End and Being OK with Someone Not Loving Us 00:52:52 How to Neutralize Anger; Making Peace with the Past 00:54:01 No-Self and Interbeing; Buddha’s Teaching about the Cow and the Skin 00:58:31 The Buddha and Serial Killer Angulimala’s Story 1:05:00 Knowing When to Expand Our Boundaries 1:08:28 The Power of Presence 1:15:44 Guided Meditation 1:21:16 Outro ----- 🎧 Listen to previous episodes on YouTube ➛ http://pvapp.to/twoii-episodes ------ 🔔 The Way Out Is In: The Zen Art of Living is a podcast series mirroring Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh’s deep teachings of Buddhist philosophy: a simple yet profound methodology for dealing with our suffering, and for creating more happiness and joy in our lives. 🔔 ------ The podcast is co-produced by the Plum Village App: https://plumvillage.app/ And Global Optimism: https://globaloptimism.com/ With support from the Thich Nhat Hanh Foundation: https://thichnhathanhfoundation.org/ ------ 🎧 Listen to the podcast on the (completely free) Plum Village App ➛ https://web.plumvillage.app/talks/the... and other streaming services. ------ Resources: Plum Village Community ➛ https://plumvillage.org/ Thich Nhat Hanh ➛ https://plumvillage.org/about/thich-n... 🎙️ Brother Phap Huu ➛ https://plumvillage.org/people/dharma... 🎙️ Jo Confino ➛   / joconfino   Bodhisattva ➛ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bodhisa... Bhikkhu ➛ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bhikkhu Mahāyāna ➛ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahayana Classes: ‘Right Diligence’ ➛ https://plumvillage.org/library/class... Old Path, White Clouds ➛ https://plumvillage.org/books/old-pat... Aṅgulimāla ➛ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A%E1%B9... The Five Mindfulness Trainings ➛ https://plumvillage.org/mindfulness/t... Deer Park Monastery ➛ https://deerparkmonastery.org/ Help us caption and translate this video: https://web.plumvillage.app/subs?yt=p... #TheWayOutIsIn #ThichNhatHanh #PlumVillageApp #twoii