Perfectionism, the Wounded Child, and a Daily Practice of Safety & Belonging

In this mini talk, Judy shares how perfectionism and anxiety get triggered when their teenager is driving, schedules change, and they’re visiting new friends, leading to pressure to “mind read” expectations instead of remembering they bring their own safety and belonging. They describe how the “teenager” part and an activated wounded child can revive an old worldview—feeling unwelcome, burdensome, and needing to shrink, please others, and ignore personal needs—especially rooted in an immigrant family context. The speaker emphasizes this isn’t a one-and-done path to perfection but a daily practice, like caring for the body. When recurring themes show up, it may mean spending more time reassuring the wounded child that the old worldview no longer applies. They recommend setting and revisiting a daily intention, stating it as present reality, and gently returning to it without self-criticism after setbacks. 00:00 Mini Talk Kickoff 00:03 Perfectionism and Anxiety 01:11 Wounded Child Activated 02:41 Old Worldview Patterns 03:23 Set Daily Intentions 04:05 Gentle Reset and Close