Less Control, More Connection Parenting Adult Children Well with Dr Kathy Koch

Dr. Kathy Koch joins Arlene to talk about what changes when your kids grow up. Her book Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children walks parents through the hard work of releasing control, grieving unmet expectations, and learning to communicate in ways that actually keep the door open. They cover topics like helicoptering through the teen years, using "I statements" instead of "you statements," staying connected with kids who've walked away from faith, and how to pray through the grief of it all. If your kids are still young, this episode is great for preparation and prevention. 2:06  Parent as a noun vs. parent as a verb — what changes when kids grow up 3:31  The long-term effects of helicoptering through the teen years 5:20  How to recognize when you're idolizing your kids 8:47  The "Isaac on the altar" release practice — surrendering your adult child to God 12:06  Staying connected with a child who has walked away from faith 14:37  "I statements" vs. "you statements" and why it matters 24:16  The monthly curiosity coffee — how to ask questions that open doors instead of closing them Find out more about Dr. Kathy's ministry at https://celebratekids.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/celebrateki... Facebook:   / celebratekidsinc   More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/s... Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. https://arlenepellicane.com/books/ Follow Arlene on Instagram / arlenepellicane How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/film Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email [email protected]