"You Dont Seem Autistic": How to Handle Invalidation

🧠 Valid But Invisible: A Reflection Worksheet on Neurodivergence and Disclosure: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1z5g3... Timestamps: 00:00: Types of Invalidation 03:20: Why Disclose? 06:51: When It Matters 09:27: The Unholy Trinity 13:10: Pushing Pause 14:28: At Work or School 16:51: Wrapping Up 🧠 Validating Responses to Neurodivergent Disclosure: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1FUzP... 🧠 Empathy: Feeling With vs Thinking With: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1xg03... What do you do when someone responds badly to your disclosure of being neurodivergent? In this video, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways people dismiss, question, or pathologise neurodivergence — and why it happens. Whether it’s “You don’t look autistic” or “Have you tried a planner?”, these invalidating responses can be frustrating and even painful. I also discuss: How to decide when and why to disclose your neurodivergence Strategies for navigating difficult conversations How to manage your own expectations and boundaries When to walk away, and when it’s worth digging deeper --- I offer therapy sessions online and in-person in Paris: 🔗 https://www.robertkostherapy.com Find me on social media: 📷   / robertkos.therapy   ⓕ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?... 🦋 https://bsky.app/profile/robertkospar... Blog + Newsletter: https://www.robertkostherapy.com/link... Music Credits: https://jordancohen.bandcamp.com/albu...    • OC ReMix #753: Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of...   #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #ADHD #Autism #MentalHealthAwareness #DisclosingDiagnosis #TherapyTalk #RobertKosTherapy #Invalidation #Boundaries