the hidden cost of not choosing yourself

when we're deciding whether or not to take a risk in our lives, we always think about all the consequences of DOING it (facing judgement, going broke, etc). but what about the cost of NOT doing it? quitting your job, moving far from home, coming out the closet, dressing differently, posting online...there are so many dreams we say no to. this doesn't mean our lives just "stay the same" - it might mean we build resentment, jealous, lose sense of identity and trust with ourselves, etc. let's talk about it if you like this video please like, subscribe, and comment! 00:00 - intro 01:36 - the miscalculation most people make 02:26 - self hatred 05:15 - chronic low grade resentment 07:34 - jealousy 08:30 - you model self abandonment 12:34 - you don't get the payoff you sacrificed for 13:27 - people don't care 15:30 - you're bitter when people don't self sacrifice too 16:23 - make your short list 17:08 - compounding opportunity cost 18:10 - what am i already paying? 18:23 - building confidence