Ирина Камаева. Дети в ситуации развода. Ответы на вопросы

Comments are being pre-moderated What's inside? 1. About the "Children of Divorce" course - https://irinakamaeva.ru/deti-razvoda/ 2. At what age is divorce less traumatic for children? 3. About meetings with the father and alienated parent syndrome 4. How to explain to a child if the other parent refuses to see them and be involved in their life. How to compensate for this refusal, especially the impact on self-esteem and minimizing trauma. What to do if you notice changes in behavior or aggression in your child after a divorce. And how to cope with jealousy and acceptance of other partners of the parents, and potentially other children. 5. At what age should a child be honestly told that a parent exists, but is missing? 6. Dad left the family for another woman. 7. Are all children traumatized by their parents' divorce? What are the markers of trauma from divorce specifically? Is there a connection between parental divorce (before age 14) and subsequent divorce (for a girl), and what is its connection? 8. How to maintain contact with children who remained in another country after a divorce and communicate with them only via Skype once a week. 9. How to explain to a child the father's refusal to communicate with her or maintain any relationship since he was ordered by the court to pay child support? 10. What should a mother do if, after the divorce, her ex-husband started buying the children very expensive gifts? He indulges literally every whim of his two daughters. During their marriage, he didn't spend much on them. The teenagers literally manipulate their father. 11. What should you say to a young child if the parents divorced immediately after their birth, and the father is not involved in the daughter's life? How should you strike a balance between not idealizing the child when questions arise, but also not slandering him? 12. The father does not meet with the child unless the mother arranges meetings. It's traumatic for the mother, because she didn't arrange things the way her father wanted, and how he wanted it is unknown, so the decision was made not to ask for meetings at all. If the mother doesn't organize them, the father interprets this as "not giving the child" and doesn't offer anything at all. Is it a vicious circle? Is there a way out? 13. How should I deal with my son? If it's like, "Daddy doesn't come to see me, is he bad or am I bad?" The answer... is a confused one, like, "No, both you and he are good," and then the thought, "If dad is good, then why isn't he communicating?" 14. A few words about children who dream of their parents getting divorced? 15. Should I explain the reason for the divorce to my child? 16. A teenage child and self-harming behavior after a divorce: how can I help without making it worse (they refuse to go to an appointment)? 17. What is the child experiencing, and how might these experiences manifest themselves externally when each parent soon starts a new family, having children together? 18. This is the moment when children of divorce are left without parents at all. Dad and Mom go their separate ways, and the child is left wherever and with whomever. 19. It would be useful to know how to discuss with the partner and child who is in the relationship after a divorce and what they call them... For example, after a divorce, a child is born in a new relationship; the new partner is their dad/mom, but not the other... I'm curious how the children will feel if one calls them dad/mom and the other doesn't, how this might affect the relationship between the children, etc. 20. What's the best course of action for a child in a situation where, after a divorce, the father tries to communicate with the child to prove to the mother that he's a good father? Child protection authorities and the courts welcome these one-hour weekly meetings. 21. A Ukrainian psychoanalyst... wrote in one article that a devalued image of a parent, for example, a father (which often happens after a divorce, as I understand it) can lead to the development of narcissistic personality disorder in the child in the future. I'd be very interested in your opinion on this matter. If you're interested, the article is called "Between Love and Hate..." 22. How can I cope with feelings of guilt towards my child (who is already 19) for divorcing his father 12 years ago? And with the guilt of choosing such a father for him? 23. What's better for a child: divorce or family? And is any family better? Irina Kamaeva, PhD in Psychology, psychoanalyst and family psychologist, President of the Association of Family Psychologists, Director of the Mediterranean School of Family Psychology and Psychological Counseling Official website - http://irinakamaeva.ru Schedule of educational programs in psychology - https://irinakamaeva.ru/raspisanie/ Recorded programs every week at a discount - https://irinakamaeva.ru/sale/ Recorded educational programs - https://irinakamaeva.ru/up/ Youtube channel - https://www.youtube....