What My Best Friend Saw During My Abusive Marriage

You've heard the story of Escape Plan from my perspective. Today, you get to hear from one of the people who lived through it with me. Becky and I had been close friends for years before I left my marriage. She knew both me and my ex-husband. She saw many of the good moments. She also witnessed some of the manipulation, control, fear, and escalation that happened behind the scenes. In this interview, Becky shares what it was like to watch Escape Plan in general, and Escalation Week in particular, unfold in real time. Timestamps: 00:00 How did Becky react when Ruth said she was leaving her ex?00:37 Becky introduces herself!01:50 How and where did Ruth and Becky meet?03:29 How long were Ruth and Becky friends at the start of Escape Plan?05:26 What was it like for Becky to be friends with both Ruth and her ex?06:43 Storytime about how Ruth's ex celebrated her birthday one year.09:54 What tipped Becky off that things were not okay between Ruth and her ex?11:19 Did Becky ever use the word "abuse" when thinking about what was going on?12:14 How would Becky deal with it when she saw Ruth's ex get angry?13:54 Did Becky feel like Ruth would eventually leave?15:57 Did Ruth's ex try to stop her from getting a PhD?16:57 What was it like for Becky hearing about Ruth finding the gun search on her ex’s computer?20:12 Was it hard when Ruth said she didn't want to leave after finding the gun search?23:16 What Becky saw of the abuse toward the end of Escape Plan.24:31 Did Becky think something bad might happen before Ruth was ready to leave?24:59 What stood out most to Becky when she remembers the period of Escape Plan?26:02 Ruth reflects on how Escape Plan impacted the people around her.27:51 What has it been like for Becky watching Escape Plan publicly?28:45 Becky's advice for supporting a loved one in an abusive relationship 🫶 Subscribe to ‪@HealingbytheNumbers‬ for more survivor stories, interviews, and what comes after escape. #ThatWasAbuse #EscapePlan #EmotionalAbuse #CoerciveControl #DomesticViolenceAwareness