How to Forgive Your Alcoholic Parents before you’re Ready to Reconcile

Can you forgive your alcoholic parents without pretending the past didn’t hurt? And is forgiveness the same as reconciliation? In this episode, we (two Catholic psychotherapists) explore one of the hardest but most freeing journeys many Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) face — learning to forgive their parents while maintaining healthy emotional and spiritual boundaries. We unpack the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation from both a clinical and Catholic perspective, showing how true forgiveness doesn’t mean denying what happened or excusing harmful behavior. Instead, it’s about healing your heart through grace, truth, and boundaries — so you can live in freedom and peace. Whether you’re struggling with resentment toward your father or mother, trying to understand Catholic forgiveness, or wondering what having a relationship with your parents looks like after addiction or trauma — this conversation is for you. 💬 In this video, we discuss: What true Forgiveness is What Forgiveness is NOT The difference between Forgiveness and Reconciliation Healing the Adult Child of Alcoholic (ACOA) heart through faith and therapy 🙏🏼 St. Dymphna, pray for us! 0:00 Intro 0:27 Why do we Seek Revenge? 2:23 What is true forgiveness? 3:22 God sees your pain 4:58 Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation 8:40 What forgiveness is NOT 11:14 How to forgive when it feels impossible ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Disclaimer: These videos are meant to inform and share our experiences. They do not replace seeing a licensed therapist. If you are experiencing symptoms of a mental disorder, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional for help.