013: Tomorrows Too Late

What if becoming yourself meant risking the one thing you loved most? In this episode of Misfits Among Us, Joey sits down with Dylan Holloway ‪@DylanAndTheMoon‬ — singer-songwriter, storyteller, former X Factor artist, and the artist behind Dylan And The Moon — for a powerful conversation about identity, music, transition, family, fear, joy, and the courage to live authentically. Dylan grew up knowing he was different long before he had the words to explain it. Music became his access point to joy, his hiding place, and eventually, his way back to himself. After appearing on The X Factor and building momentum as an artist, Dylan reached a moment where everything changed. To become the person he knew he was, he had to risk the one thing that had carried him through life: his voice. That journey became Tomorrow’s Too Late — a deeply personal story about transition, music, self-acceptance, and the terrifying beauty of choosing yourself before it’s too late. This conversation follows Dylan from childhood in Cornwall, to X Factor, to the COVID lockdown that forced him to slow down and listen to himself, to coming out to his family, to recording music that allows him to duet with his past self. It is a story about being trans. It is also a story about something every person understands: the cost of hiding from yourself, and the freedom that comes when you finally stop. No scripts. Real people. You don’t have to agree. You just have to listen. Because the misfits aren’t rare. They’re among us. If this episode brought up difficult feelings, you are not alone. In the U.S., call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. In the UK and ROI, Samaritans is available free at 116 123. For LGBTQ+ young people in the U.S., The Trevor Project offers 24/7 crisis support. _____________________________ Follow Dylan Holloway: Dylan And The Moon: https://www.musicglue.com/dylanandthe... Instagram:   / dylanandthemoon   TikTok:   / dylanandthemoon   YouTube:    / @dylanandthemoon   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/3R5of... Tomorrow’s Too Late:    • Tomorrows Too Late - Official Trailer   _____________________________ ABOUT MISFITS AMONG US: Misfits Among Us is a conversation-driven podcast exploring how people develop their beliefs, identities, and worldviews through life experiences. Each episode focuses on real conversations about identity, reinvention, trauma, success, and personal growth. No talking points. No safe lanes. No topics off limits. Because the misfits aren’t rare. They’re among us. If you are if you know someone who has a great story and lived a great life, please reach out. Misfits would love to chat! [email protected] Find us everywhere: YouTube:    / @misfitsamonguspodcast   Apple Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/misfits-among-us/id1874680505 Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/3pn5swLhuTnRDL4TeiPXq3?si=03bed449dc2547ba TikTok: tiktok.com/@misfitsamonguspodcast Instagram: instagram.com/misfitsamonguspodcast _____________________________ Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:59 Meeting Dylan Holloway 01:56 Growing Up Knowing He Was Different 04:58 “My Brain Was Right. My Body Was Confused.” 07:25 Why Almost Everything Still Wasn’t Enough 11:13 Beauty, Identity, and Being Seen 14:45 Music as Joy, Escape, and Truth 19:07 X Factor, Fame, and Becoming a Character 23:34 Leaving the Band and Finding His Own Sound 26:22 How COVID Changed Everything 29:19 Coming Out to His Parents 32:12 Top Surgery, Testosterone, and the Fear of Losing His Voice 36:21 Tomorrow’s Too Late 37:17 Filming the Transition 38:35 Duetting With His Past Self 42:08 Why Authenticity Is Bigger Than Identity 45:55 Public Speaking, Advocacy, and Storytelling 48:10 Being Trans vs. Being Dylan 52:04 What Comes Next 54:07 Advice for Anyone Still Finding Themselves 57:19 Closing Thoughts