"그래서 그렇게 악착같이.." 며느리의 고향집에 방문한 순간 모든것이 미안해 무너져 내려버린 시어머니 #몰아볼교양

In Sangju, Gyeongsangbuk-do, there is a mother-in-law, Ms. Song Yang-hee (68), who feels satisfied only when she finishes housework quickly. Her Vietnamese daughter-in-law, Tran Ngoc Tuyen (25), cannot understand her mother-in-law, asking why she has to rush things when war isn't coming and suggesting she could do it a little later. When the mother-in-law tells her to wash the dishes immediately after eating, the daughter-in-law watches TV, saying she will do it later; when she tells her to take in and fold the laundry, the daughter-in-law says she will do it later because it is too hot. The mother-in-law continues to nag, hoping she will do exactly as she says, but the daughter-in-law does not back down even once. Furthermore, the mother-in-law holds the financial control of the entire family, including not only the daughter-in-law's bank account but also her son and father-in-law. The daughter-in-law wants to freely send the money she earns from work to her parents and help them out, but since the mother-in-law holds the account, she cannot easily spend the money. Even when the daughter-in-law asks to be allowed to manage her own bank account, the mother-in-law insists she cannot hand it over yet, citing the daughter-in-law's extravagant spending habits... The mother-in-law, who interferes even in the couple's relationship, tells her daughter-in-law to always understand her husband, claiming that the husband is the sky and the wife is the earth. However, the daughter-in-law refuses to budge on her opinion, asking why the wife is the earth and why she should be the one to understand her husband. As they stubbornly insist on their own views and fail to understand each other, their relationship grows increasingly distant... ▶ “I can’t even sleep, leaving my work behind. It’s like this day and night. Come out and at least grill some seaweed!” vs. “My mother-in-law always tells me to do exactly as she says. Why do you have to hurry? Is a war coming?” The mother-in-law, who married at twenty-one and lived with her in-laws and even her husband's aunt. In Korea, living with in-laws made the habit of doing things quickly ingrained, but somehow, the daughter-in-law who married from Vietnam is different. After eating, she asks if she can take a break from washing the dishes; she takes a nap when water kimchi needs to be made; and when asked to hang up the blankets, she claims she did them yesterday and doesn't need to do them again. In fact, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had a huge fight a year ago. The daughter-in-law, who worked at a factory, overslept in the morning, refused to eat the breakfast prepared for her, and showed no intention of doing housework, causing the mother-in-law to lose her temper! She said, “If you’re going to act like this, just move out and live on your own!” Shocked, the daughter-in-law cried in her room for a long time. Since then, the daughter-in-law has changed a little, and the mother-in-law believes the matter was resolved. However, the daughter-in-law reportedly still carries the scars from that time deep in her heart... ▶ “I give the whole family allowance. I manage my daughter-in-law’s bank account too. I have to keep it for at least another 10 years!” vs. “My mother-in-law knows exactly how much I spend just by looking at my account, so I can’t even send money to my parents’ house whenever I want!” In the Tuyen household, the mother-in-law personally hands over everything every morning—not only the father-in-law's gas money and his son's cigarette money, but also the daughter-in-law's allowance. Although they are entering their sixth year of marriage, the mother-in-law directly manages not only her son's but also her daughter-in-law's salary accounts. She holds the financial control to keep her daughter-in-law in check, claiming that her spending still seems too extravagant. However, the daughter-in-law feels uncomfortable that her mother-in-law knows every detail of her expenses, down to her phone bills. Furthermore, she feels uneasy about sending allowance to her parents, who are struggling financially, because she feels self-conscious around her mother-in-law; yet, the mother-in-law believes that her daughter-in-law has no particular complaints. Her thinking is that it is only natural, citing the fact that her father-in-law managed her account and she received an allowance from him when she was living with her in-laws. On the contrary, the mother-in-law feels frustrated because it is no use arguing with her daughter-in-law every time they go to the supermarket, telling her not to buy unnecessary items... ▶ A Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law’s Trip to Vietnam to Understand Each Other The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, who had been unable to understand each other because they insisted on their own positions, set off for Vietnam, the daughter-in-law’s hometown, hoping to understand one another through conversation. The daughter-in-law’s hometown is Ca Mau,...