Podcast: İçim Dışım Bir /Konuk: Selcen Akkoç

Hello. You are in a space where your inner voice and the face you project outward smile at each other. This is "My Inner and Outer Self are One." Sometimes we clash with ourselves, sometimes with those closest to us, sometimes with the system we live in, and sometimes with nature. Yet, even amidst these experiences that separate us, it is possible to remain centered and reconnect. We are here to look at life through this different window offered by Nonviolent Communication. If you are ready to join us, let's begin. Our guest in this podcast series, where CNVC Center Nonviolent Communication Trainers and Trainer Candidates share their experiences, is Selcen Akkoç. In this episode, Selcen shares her journey from being a person who lived her life in a defensive energy to becoming a person who embraces her vulnerable sides and builds relationships with others with curiosity, thanks to Nonviolent Communication. 06:00 I was suddenly transferring to a defenseless five-year-old child 13:05 I was able to become curious about a person I'd been hearing the same accusation from for years 18:05 I started doing 'intention control' while speaking, my words decreased 23:10 Being aware of my own needs, being aware of my feelings is an act of love 26:30 What we are practicing is 'A Language of Life', a new language These are the titles with which we convey this. Wishing you a pleasant meeting. Let's remind you: The Nonviolent Communication festival is on April 11-12, 2026. You can listen to our broadcasts on Spotify: İÇİM DIŞIM BİR. https://open.spotify.com/show/4x1i6PN... ----------------------------------- About our guest: Selcen introduces herself as someone active in the business world with never-ending new plans and also progressing in the Nonviolent Communication certification process. She currently lives in America. Due to her admiration for her high school literature teacher, she wanted to become a literature teacher for a long time, but her father's firm stance on her becoming a mechanical engineer led her down a different path; she studied Systems Engineering in America and graduated as the top student. During this process, she realized how much the sincere, compassionate, and supportive approach of one of her professors at university fueled her motivation. In 2017, she was very impressed by a training announcement by Özgen Saatçılar on social media and immediately took the Nonviolent Communication introductory training, describing those days as "I listened in amazement for two days." Selcen initially stated that her intention was to get to know herself better and to establish a more compassionate language, especially in family relationships. Over time, she realized that this was not just a communication model, but a life practice. During this process, she received training from trainers both in Turkey and internationally. Topics such as connecting with emotions, shame, self-compassion, and deepening connection with the body became her personal and professional focus. Since 2022, Selcen has been a CNVC Center Certified Trainer Candidate and conducts her work in Nonviolent Communication not alone, but as part of a team with Ceyda Hirsch and Şükrü Bozkurt; she expresses deep gratitude for their presence. Selcen has two daughters and one son. She says that while trying to support her children's uniqueness, she has learned a great deal from them and their life experiences. She particularly emphasizes that mothering her youngest daughter, Meriç, has been a vibrant practical experience where she sometimes forgets about Nonviolent Communication, only to remind herself again. She believes that the more people learn Nonviolent Communication, the more compassionate the world our children will live in will be, adding, "For me, the essence of this journey is this: when a person can connect with themselves, their emotions, and their body, the rest of life gradually falls into place."