Why ADHD Makes You Hate Yourself (And How to Stop)

Why do so many people with ADHD spend their lives trying to earn their worth? How do you know if you're masking? And why do even the most successful ADHD adults still feel like they're failing? In this episode, ADHD coach and former British Army soldier Rich Forbes explains the hidden emotional burden of ADHD, how to spot masking, practical strategies for managing rejection sensitivity, and why the right environment can change everything. Before becoming an ADHD coach, Rich served for eight years in the British Army, bringing a unique perspective on resilience, identity, and what it really takes to thrive with ADHD. Chapters: 00:00 Trailer 03:33 Why ADHD Makes You Feel You Have to Earn Your Worth 05:00 The Hidden Cost of Constantly Proving Yourself 07:53 The Moment Everything Finally Made Sense 09:10 The Saddest Thing People With ADHD Tell Themselves 10:16 The Grief Nobody Warns You About After ADHD Diagnosis 11:01 Why ADHD Diagnosis Hurts Differently at Every Age 17:00 How to Tell If You've Been Masking Your Entire Life 18:54 Maybe You're Not the Problem, Maybe It's Your Environment 21:04 Is Masking ADHD's Biggest Challenge? 25:06 What Years of Masking Really Costs You 28:22 The Emotional Weight ADHD Adults Carry Every Day 31:37 Tiimo Advert 32:56 How to Calm Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria 34:52 A New ADHD Hack That Changes Everything 38:52 Why Success Never Feels Like Enough With ADHD 40:16 The Advice Every ADHD Adult Needs to Hear 42:33 The One Thing ADHD Adults Need to Stop Blaming Themselves For 48:03 Why Successful Women With ADHD Still Feel Like Failures 54:46 The Biggest Myth About ADHD in Women 58:18 A Letter to My Younger Self Find Rich on Instagram 👉   / richforbes_adhdcoach   Get 30% off an annual Tiimo subscription 👉 https://www.tiimoapp.com/offers/adhdc... Buy Alex's book entitled 'Now It All Makes Sense' 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Now-All-Make... Order Alex’s book about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria 👉 https://linktr.ee/adhdchatter?utm_sou... Producer: Timon Woodward  Recorded by: Hamlin Studios Trailer editor: Ryan Faber DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.