2: Why We Waited 9 Years to Start a Family

After 9 years of marriage and 12 years together, Samantha and Durelle Bailey finally open up about why they chose to wait, what they learned during that season, and how their very different childhoods shaped the parents they hope to become. On today’s episode of The Bailey Way, their conversation goes far beyond baby fever and parenting plans. Durelle shares the painful realities of growing up without healthy parental examples, navigating childhood trauma, and the commitment he's made to break generational cycles. Samantha, on the other hand, reflects on being raised in a stable, loving home and the lessons she hopes to carry into motherhood. Together, they discuss healing, intentional marriage, emotional maturity, discipline, faith, family, and why becoming parents starts long before a child is born. KEY POINTS: Why we waited 9 years to have kids The truth behind our "baby timeline" Growing up with completely different childhoods The day Durelle's heart was broken as a child Breaking generational curses before becoming parents How trauma followed us into marriage The healing work required before having children Learning to parent without healthy examples Rethinking discipline, correction, and communication God's provision through unexpected people Preparing for parenthood beyond diapers and strollers On building a family legacy that changes everything QUOTES: “I'm actually excited to be a dad to even heal the parts of me that didn't get to experience a safe pamper.” – Durelle Bailey “It's not just telling your kids you love them, but showing up for them and making sure that they feel that.” - Samantha Bailey RESOURCES: Follow Samantha: IG:   / samanthacassandra   TikTok:   / samanthacassandra_   Follow Durelle: IG:   / durellebailey   TikTok:   / durellebailey   The Bailey Way is produced by EPYC Media Network