How To Help Someone Without Controlling Them | Peaceful John

For this episode of The Small Bow Podcast, my friend Peaceful John joins the show to answer some of your questions about recovery. It should be obvious pretty quickly why I call him Peaceful John. We talk about how to set boundaries with aging parents, how to avoid turning your grief into a weapon, how to care less, how to feel more… basically how to deal with your own sh*t. Thanks to everyone who wrote in (I may have snuck some questions in myself) and thanks to John for showing up and providing some answers. 00:00:00 Peaceful John and 12-Step Recovery 00:03:02 The road from cynical to softened by grief 00:06:21 Handling resentment and others' substance sse 00:09:54 How to care for loved ones without rescuing them 00:13:07 The difference between detachment and abandonment 00:16:46 Finding trust and connection with a higher power 00:20:07 Defining radical acceptance and facing reality 00:23:45 Naming the ugly feelings to remove resentment 00:26:33 Aging, sex, and dating in your seventies 00:30:12 Connection junkies and the power of honest presence 00:33:10 When grief becomes a weaponized badge 00:37:40 Why intimacy is more terrifying than loss Topics: 12-Step & Adult Child Recovery Healing Your Inner "Asshole" Honor Resentment Before Peace The Rescuer Complex Trap Detaching with Love vs. Malice Radical Acceptance: Naming Ugly Career Success & Self-Esteem Intimacy Is Most Terrifying When Grief Becomes a Weapon Aging, Dating & Sexual Honesty New episodes release every Wednesday. ➡️ Subscribe to The Small Bow Podcast YouTube:    / @thesmallbow   ➡️ Join The Small Bow Community: https://www.thesmallbow.com/ ➡️ Get the latest on The Small Bow: https://linktr.ee/THESMALLBOW ➡️ Download The Small Bow Podcast on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...