Hot Topic 30 January 2023

I’m a lady aged 52. I’m married with 3 boys and a stepdaughter. About 24 years ago a woman came to my house with a baby girl who was a few weeks old and dumped her on us. She claimed that my husband promised to marry her after she was pregnant. My husband did not deny it, he was pleading with that lady until she decides to dump the baby. I raised the baby as my own and took her to school. When she turned 16 I told her that I was not her biological mother and she didn’t take it well and it affected our relationship. When she finished school, she wanted to go to South Africa for university, but her dad told her that he did not have enough money. I sacrificed to fund her yet my other two sons went to local universities. All was well until she got pregnant in her final year in SA. I didn't know about it until she gave birth. I had no idea she had reconnected with her mother who lives in Capetown. After seeing the child, the guy who impregnated her came to his senses and proposed marriage to her. They had to inform the father (my husband) that is when we knew about the baby. I was hurt, it broke my heart that she turned her back on me. Three weeks ago, she was married and things did not go well because her biological mother refused to attend. I assumed she was shy facing everyone after dumping her child. Other relatives agreed that I should stand in as the mother and receive everything as the one who raised the child. My problem now is my stepdaughter’s biological mother has been calling my husband claiming money and clothes. My husband has since blocked her and I’m losing sleep over this issue. Did we handle this issue the correct way? Please help!