부모에게 사랑받지 못하고 자란 사람이 자꾸 내 탓부터 하는 이유

#ParentalLove #ConstantlyBlamingMyself #SelfEsteem #MidlifePsychology #Comfort There are people who, even after growing up, feel their hearts sink whenever they think of their parents and find themselves constantly blaming themselves. Let us slowly examine together where that feeling originated and whether it was truly due to our own shortcomings. I hope you can lay down a piece of the guilt you have carried for so long today. 📌 Topics Covered in This Video • That feeling of guilt on the way back from visiting parents, even after being nice to them • The old habit of putting others first but being unable to bring up my own feelings • "It’s because I’m inadequate" or "It’s just my personality"—common misdiagnoses we make • The fact that parents didn't hit me, but simply didn't accept my emotions—invisible wounds • The mental flow where a child blames themselves for the lack of love • Why that childhood interpretation leads to perfectionism and withdrawal in adulthood • A shift in perspective: the right to give love belongs to the parents, not receiving it is not my fault • A small practice this evening: just give a name to the emotions that arise 💡 Reference Data Sources • John Bowlby Attachment Theory / Distribution of Adult Attachment Types (National Comorbidity Survey) • Concept of Emotional Neglect (CEN) — Dr. Jonice Webb • Self-blame mediation study (KCI domestic report) • Naming emotions and emotion regulation — UCLA Lieberman research team (2007, Psychological Science) • Post-traumatic growth (PTG) — Tedeschi & Calhoun • Unfortunate childhood experiences (ACE) domestic statistics — KCI • Self-compassion (Kristin Neff) / Adlerian task separation ⚠️ Disclaimer This video is intended to help you understand and comfort your feelings; it does not replace medical diagnosis or treatment. If these feelings continue to interfere with your daily life for an extended period, we recommend that you calmly consult with a nearby hospital or a professional. In moments of intense emotional distress, you can contact the Suicide Prevention Counseling Center at 1393. 🔔 I would like to continue sharing these stories with you in the future. Your presence gives me great strength.