S11E10: Mastering the Art of Repair (Timing, Tempo and Time, pt. 2)

This week is part 2 of our series on Timing, Tempo, and Time where we step into the nuanced terrain of what it actually takes to begin the work of repair. Whether we're the ones who caused harm, were impacted by it, or are caught in a mutual fracture, repair requires initiative—and initiative often requires courage. We explore how clarity about our role, our responsibility, and our relational context shapes how we move first (or why we hesitate to). But repair isn’t just about the decision to start—it’s also about the pace we keep. Some fractures can begin mending in a single moment; others need months of faithful return. This episode invites us to consider the rhythm of healing, the emotional resistance that can surface, and why repair is not a performance to rush but a process to honor. When we learn to initiate repair at a sustainable tempo, we become people who actively resist disintegration—and participate in the restoration of what’s been broken. Episode Links and References Genesis 3:15 – The first mention of God's promise to repair rupture. The Soul of Shame - Curt Thompson, MD The Wounded Heart - Dan Allender The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk After the Affair - Janis Spring _________________________________________________________________________ CURT THOMPSON, MD BOOKS • The Deepest Place https://www.amazon.com/Deepest-Place-... • The Soul of Desire https://www.ivpress.com/the-soul-of-d... • The Soul of Shame https://www.ivpress.com/the-soul-of-s... • Anatomy of the Soul https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Soul-C... STAY CONNECTED 👉 Instagram for Curt Thompson, MD:   / curtthompsonmd   👉 Instagram for Amy Cella:   / amycella   👉 Instagram for Pepper Sweeney:   / peppersweeney   👉 Facebook:   / curtthompsonmd   👉 Curt Thompson website: https://www.curtthompsonmd.com/ 👉 Being Known Podcast website: https://www.beingknownpod.com/ 👉 Weekly Applications: https://www.curtthompsonmd.com/applic... ___________________________________________________________ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Themes 04:29 Understanding Rupture and Repair 12:22 The Role of Power Gradients in Relationships 22:48 Navigating the Desire for Repair 29:16 Understanding Ruptures and Repairs 32:07 The Importance of Timing and Tempo in Repair 35:56 Navigating the Complexity of Emotional Responses 39:40 The Role of Both Parties in Repair 42:44 Empathy and Acknowledgment in Repair 50:25 Managing Personal Feelings During Repair