Persistence, Grit, Resilience — and Why the Difference Matters

Gene defines the three things most of us mash together. Persistence is sticking with the task. Grit overlaps with persistence but adds direction. Resilience is its own thing entirely. It's not just enduring. It's coming out the other side better equipped, with the lesson, but without the baggage. Then they get practical. When your wife says something that pisses you off, what's the value that just got rubbed against? Sit with the emotion long enough to read the boundary that got encroached, and you can come back with a real conversation instead of a cold shoulder. Ian shares the line his wife said to him before kids. "What would it feel like in our relationship if you spent a fraction of the energy you put into your team?" The line that landed and never left. A practical and quietly devastating highlight on what good repair actually looks like.