Подкаст №28. Взрослые дети эмоционально незрелых родителей

Special offer for the online course "Cycles of Power" (start for free): https://meleshkod.ru/kurs Our Telegram channel: https://t.me/meleshkod_ru 0:56 About the term "emotionally immature adults" What is an emotionally mature person: a person who is able to think objectively and maintain an emotional connection with others act openly based on a set goal and do not exploit others a sense of identity is not shy about their feelings and thoughts assesses situations very realistically without dwelling on them is very good at analyzing their thoughts and feelings 5:05 Who are emotionally immature adults? Criteria: 1) My parent often overreacted emotionally to minor events. 2) My parent rarely showed empathy or showed interest in the feelings of others. 3) When it came to emotional intimacy or expressing feelings, my parent became uncomfortable and withdrew. 4) My parent was often irritated by individual differences and different points of view. 5) As a child, my parent often shared their problems with me, but was unwilling to listen. 6) My parent often spoke and acted without regard for other people's feelings. 7) I rarely received my parent's attention and empathy, except when I was seriously ill. 8) My parent was inconsistent: sometimes they were wise, but other times they were completely unreasonable. 9) If I was sad, my parent would either say something superficial and unhelpful, or get angry and make sarcastic comments. 10) All our conversations revolved primarily around my parent's interests. 11) Even polite disagreement could provoke a defensive reaction from my parent. 12) I felt uncomfortable telling my parents about my successes because it seemed like they didn't care. 13) My parent didn't base their opinions on facts and logic. 14) My parent wasn't prone to introspection and rarely considered their role in the situation. 15) My parent saw everything in black and white and had trouble accepting new things. 12:16 Types of emotionally immature parents: Type 1) Emotional parent Type 2) Obsessive parent Type 3) Passive parent Type 4) Dismissing parent 18:58 How does this manifest itself in relationships with children? 22:00 How does this affect the child's future? 26:24 How does this manifest itself in the child's adult life? 29:26 How can this be addressed? Podcast hosts: Dmitry Meleshko Pavel Bolvinov