Your Drive to Grow Might Be Preventing It

Join licensed marriage and family therapist Adam Cross (LMFT #116623) as he unpacks why your drive to grow might actually be working against you. Many of us want to be better: more disciplined, more productive, more spiritually mature. But if that drive comes from an internal critic rather than from love, it can quietly sabotage the very growth we're chasing. Adam breaks down the difference between fear-based self-improvement and growth rooted in already being loved by God. In this video, Adam reflects on: ● Why the "get up earlier, work harder, do more" voice in your head can backfire ● The difference between wanting to grow out of fear versus out of peace ● Why numbing out (doom scrolling, checking out) is often a response to fear-based pressure ● Asking the "how" and "why" behind your goals, not just the "what" ● St. Paul's teaching in 1 Corinthians 4 on who has the right to judge us ● Why your worth isn't tied to your performance, and how that changes everything If you've ever felt exhausted trying to earn your own worth through productivity or discipline, this conversation is for you. You don't have to perform your way into being loved. You already are. 👉 If this message resonates with you, remember to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE to help others discover the healing found in faith-based therapy. 📢 Join the Conversation: Where does your drive to grow come from, fear or freedom? Share your thoughts below. Timestamps 0:00 – The intention to grow can come from fear, not love 0:45 – Meet Adam Cross, LMFT and founder of the Catholic Therapy Center 1:15 – The internal critic pushing "be better, do more" 3:00 – Where does that drive actually come from? 4:15 – Numbing out and doom scrolling as an escape from fear 5:15 – Asking the "how" and "why" behind your goals 6:15 – 1 Corinthians 4: only God's judgment matters 7:15 – You are already loved. Your worth isn't earned 8:15 – Choosing to grow out of freedom, not fear 9:00 – Invitation to examine your own performance mindset #Catholictherapy, #Catholicmentalhealth, #catholicpsychology