How to Earn Secure Attachment in Relationships - Dr. Stan Tatkin - HPP 55

Speakers: Dr. Will Van Derveer, Keith Kurlander, Dr. Stan Tatkin Wanting to build a strong and lasting relationship is never an easy undertaking, especially in today’s times. There are a multitude of factors and distractions that can easily affect the integrity of an already fragile relationship. This raises questions and concerns, and the need for us to truly understand what we must do to repair it and make it even stronger. Throughout the years, couples are constantly facing massive challenges and hurdles to the point that they can barely keep their relationship afloat. Oftentimes, these struggles lead to deeper and darker questions about the stability of the relationship and inevitably causes the once loving union between two individuals to unravel. In today's exciting episode, we talk to Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned and highly respected couple therapist about the challenges couples face in all aspects in their relationship. Join us as we dive in head first to find out the significant factors that cause relationships to fail and discuss remedies and solutions to avoid it from happening from a scientific viewpoint – all the while discovering possibilities of revitalizing relationships. 02:00 Dr. Tatkin's early origins and how he eventually got involved in psychology 04:20 PACT, and its uniqueness to approaching relationship therapy 08:03 Understanding secure functioning and how it plays a role in a relationship 08:50 Why relationships face extreme struggles in today's culture 12:47 Defining secure versus insecure functioning and the methodology used in relationship therapy 17:54 Respecting differences in values and how it impacts relationships later in life 22:56 The nature of being human 24:57 Understanding the automatic brain and how it can affect the couple relationship 33:20 The fluidity between automation and the individual core guiding principles 38:46 Attachment versus non-attachment, and their significance in relationship mortality 50:05 Having a clear, unique and purposeful goal in a relationship 54:30 How working together can do amazing things despite differences To learn more about Dr. Stan Tatkin: ● About Stan: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/about ● PACT: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/what... ● Secure Functioning: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/blog... ***** How you can help others in a big way... If you enjoy the Higher Practice Podcast, please leave a quick review on the Apple Podcast app. It makes a big difference in getting the word out to other people who will benefit from this podcast. Simply, click on the show on your podcast app, scroll down to the bottom of all the episodes, in the ratings and reviews section tap stars to rate, click write a review. Want more? For show notes and more information, visit https://psychiatryinstitute.com/podcast/ Sign up for our newsletter and to receive ongoing information for optimal mental health: email.psychiatryinstitute.com If you’re a provider visit https://psychiatryinstitute.com/ If you’re interested in patient care visit: https://www.psychiatrycenters.com For provider education reach out to: [email protected] For patient care reach out to: [email protected] If you want to learn more about integrative psychiatry we offer some courses that you might be interested: https://psychiatryinstitute.com/educa... Don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube Channel!