Are We Saying that Wives Don't Have to Make Love?

Episode 231 of the Bare Marriage Podcast! When we talk about how God made sex to be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and how, if women don't want sex, the answer is to figure out why, we invariably get people saying, "so you think women don't have to have sex then?" Today on the podcast we look at the 90% problem vs. the 10% problem. In 90% of cases where women don't want sex, there's a reason. Let's focus mostly on the 90%! But guess what? We actually talk about the 10% too! OUR SPONSOR: The book Forgiveness After Trauma. A victim-centered approach to what forgiveness looks like after betrayal. Rather than pressuring a victim to forgive, let's examine what Scripture says about lament, anger, accountability, and what reconciliation looks like. I was so, so blown away by this book, and saw things in Scripture I never saw before. Check out Susannah Griffith's story, and this amazing book. https://amzn.to/3PE5gZS TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work   / baremarriage   For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruits And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/ THE PRODUCTS WE MENTIONED: Our book The Great Sex Rescue https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-re... The Orgasm Course https://baremarriage.com/the-orgasm-c... The Boost Your Libido Course https://baremarriage.com/boost-libido... THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST: Our podcast on obligation sex, and the post that goes along with it https://baremarriage.com/2023/09/the-... https://baremarriage.com/2023/09/10-t... The podcast where we discuss Emerson Eggerichs saying you can't tell if a woman is aroused--and a follow-up podcast going into more detail on how evangelical writers portray female orgasm https://baremarriage.com/2022/01/the-... https://baremarriage.com/2023/06/male... More podcasts on libido: 3 ways to talk about libido differences, and have we made sex into a yes space for men? https://baremarriage.com/2022/10/podc... https://baremarriage.com/2022/06/sex-...

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