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Why do we fall in love with someone who does us harm? Yehudit Katz hosts Ofra Miron Lichter | Thinking Well 209 There's that man who doesn't do you any good, but does wow you. He's charismatic and he says exactly the right words. But then he disappears. Then he comes back. With him, you feel like you've finally found the one. But a moment later you're heartbroken again with ice cream on the couch and a friend telling you I told you so. In this episode, I met Ofra Miron Lichter, a clinical psychologist specializing in cognitive-behavioral therapy, for a conversation about "narcissist recovery." In this episode, we turned to Israeli women (and men, you also have a good reason to stay): How do you wean yourself from choosing the men who most captivate us but break our hearts time and time again? What's in the episode? Why is uncertainty (meaning - the thrill!) so addictive? What's the connection between dating, dopamine, addiction and unexpected reinforcement? How can a “spark” actually be a warning light? Why does the word compromise scare us so much, for God’s sake? Let’s understand why we are attracted to these types, on a biological and psychological level? How to recognize the signs already on dating apps? And how do we start to wean ourselves from the fantasy that he will change for us but will actually remain exactly who he is? 00:00 Why do we fall in love with heartbreakers? 01:27 What does culture teach us about love 04:58 This guy who is irresistible 09:44 Why does it feel so real? 13:31 The fantasy: Maybe it will be different for me? 16:44 The mechanism that distorts our minds 18:25 The rat experiment that got addicted to thrills 23:30 How does this relate to self-confidence? 24:14 Upcoming Events 24:55 Interim Summary of the Three Explanations 26:55 When We Say "Narcissist," What Do We Mean? 31:46 Warning Signs on Apps and Dating 35:47 Why It's an Addiction 40:53 This Is Not a Manifesto Against Men 43:47 Starting to Wean 46:31 "Compromise" Is Not a Dirty Word 51:46 The Stages of the Rehab Process 57:12 How Long Does Rehab Take? 59:00 Episode Summary and Bye ______________________ Editor: Uri Dagan ______________________ The Playlist in Question: Narcissist Rehab - Logical Psychology in a Crazy World https://tinyurl.com/4bdcsvjm ______________________ Upcoming Events: Herzliya | 15.7.26 | How Do We Decide? Quick, logical and happy decisions https://tarbuta.com/product/judithkatz/ Online workshop | 27.7.26 | Writing as a healing tool - writing ourselves and finding meaning, liberation and connection to goodness https://lp.vp4.me/wg18 Netanya Library | 29.7.26 | The wonderful science of happiness - and how to use it for a better life https://tinyurl.com/4nx96fyk ______________________ Want to book a lecture or workshop from me at your company, organization or private event? Talk to Nitzan at 050-526-0526 or [email protected]