Why You're Overlooked at Work (And How to Fix It)

📌 If this resonated, book a free 45-minute Upgrade Gameplan session with Julie: https://milliesidecoaching.com/evenin... This episode unpacks why you're overlooked at work even when you're the most qualified person in the room. You'll walk away with a practical three-step technique to stop backing down in the moment and start being seen as leadership material, not just someone who delivers. ➡️ Why the strategy that built your career (overdelivering, keeping everyone happy) becomes your ceiling at senior level ➡️ The automatic physical reaction that makes you back down before you've even had time to think ➡️ How childhood patterns of being ""good and easy"" show up in salary negotiations, meetings, and career decisions today ➡️ The Position Hold technique: a three-step process to catch yourself before you soften your ask or say yes when you mean no ➡️ The difference between being valued for your output and being respected for your judgment, and why that gap matters for promotion ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction 00:44 The ceiling you built 01:03 Three scenarios you might recognise 02:09 Where this pattern comes from 04:19 Why the game changes at senior level 05:17 What's actually running the show 06:30 The identity box and childhood beliefs 08:08 The classroom example 10:39 Why knowing the cause isn't enough 12:22 The Position Hold technique 14:11 Scenario one: the meeting pushback 14:34 Scenario two: the salary conversation 15:20 What becomes possible when you stop 16:24 Your one thing this week 18:05 Book your Upgrade Gameplan 📺 ABOUT THE UPGRADE The Upgrade is a weekly show hosted by Julie Smith for high-performing professionals who have ticked every box on the outside but still feel like something is not clicking on the inside. If you've done everything right but something still feels off, this show is for you. 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss the next one:    / @milliesidetherapycoaching   💬 CONNECT WITH JULIE Instagram:   / juliemillieside   Website: https://millieside.com/ #TheUpgrade #CareerPlateau #OverlookedAtWork