The Hidden Abuse That Continues After Divorce (And How to Stay Grounded)

Coercive control doesn’t end with separation—and when children are involved, the stakes are even higher. In this compelling episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, host Karen McMahon sits down with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a leading expert and passionate advocate in the field of coercive control, to explore how this invisible form of abuse continues to impact families long after the relationship ends. Together, they unpack how emotional abuse often flies under the radar, the lasting harm it causes to both parents and children, and how protective parents can navigate the ongoing manipulation with clarity, strength, and love. If you've felt trapped in a battle where your integrity and your child’s well-being are constantly under attack, this conversation offers validation—and a way forward. Dr. Cocchiola shares powerful insights on how to stay emotionally grounded, respond without reactivity, and support your child’s healing without gaslighting yourself or them. She explores the role trauma plays in behavioral issues and emphasizes the importance of becoming a consistent source of safety and truth in your child’s life. This episode introduces a strategy to help you lead with intention: Predict what your children may have heard, Prepare your grounded response, and Protect both yourself and your child. It’s not just about recognizing the harm—it’s about rising to meet it. Your steady, loving presence may be the most powerful tool your child has—and the clearest reflection of your own healing and hope. Connect with Dr. Christine: YouTube:    / @drcocchiola-coercivecontrol   Instagram:   / dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol   Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg 🎧 Listen and download: 👉 iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... 👉 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/30wi... 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:18 Understanding Coercive Control in Co-Parenting 01:32 Empowering the Protective Parent 03:29 The Impact on Children 09:00 Personal Experiences and Insights 10:30 Defining Narcissism and Coercive Control 17:30 Gaslighting and Intuition Disintegration 23:07 Addressing Parental Yelling and Its Impact 23:25 Navigating Character Assassination in Co-Parenting 23:56 Elevating Parenting to Ensure Child Safety 24:08 Supporting Children Through Parental Conflict 25:20 The Resilience and Growth of Children 25:29 Understanding and Healing Broken Brains 25:51 The Role of Trauma in Child Behavior A word from our sponsor: Let’s talk about sleep... especially during those hot summer nights. If you’ve ever tossed and turned, sweating through your sheets, you’re not alone. That’s why I’m so excited to share Cozy Earth with you. I personally use their bamboo sheets, and they’ve completely transformed how I sleep—cooler, more comfortably, and without waking up in a sweat. The fabric is naturally temperature-regulating and moisture-wicking, which means better rest for you. Their All Day Tee is a favorite in my house—soft, breathable, and perfect for staying cool during busy days. And don’t even get me started on the Studio Pant Collection—comfort and style in one perfect piece. Even better? You can try it all risk-free. With a 100-night sleep trial and a 10-year warranty on bedding, you have nothing to lose—and so much sleep to gain. ✨ Upgrade your summer. Go to cozyearth.com and use code JBD for 40% off their best-selling temperature-regulating sheets, apparel, and more. You’ll feel the difference from night one.