Attachment Styles: Why You Keep Repeating The Same Patterns | Annie Zimmerman | #127

This week Dr. Annie Zimmerman is a psychotherapist, author and social media sensation sits down with me to unpack why we struggle in relationships. 00:01 Understanding your attachment system is essential for understanding your relationships. 01:47 Annie Zimmerman focuses on how past experiences impact present relationships 05:43 Babies develop attachment styles to ensure positive attention from parents for survival and security. 07:54 Attachment styles in adults are influenced by their experiences as babies. 11:44 Babies learn to regulate emotions through parent soothing 13:50 Anxious attachment styles stem from early experiences and affect the ability to regulate emotions and reactions. 17:48 Navigating anxious attachment in relationships 19:27 Understanding and processing attachment styles for healthier relationships. 22:58 Therapy is about shifting and changing your relationship with yourself, not just finding solutions. 24:38 Approaching conversations with parents about the past 28:09 Moving from toxic to secure relationships can feel boring due to the absence of intense highs. 29:54 Toxic relationships can feel addictive due to inconsistent rewards. 33:14 Unconscious influences on relationship choices 34:51 Recognize and be curious about your behavior in relationships 38:13 Creating new neural pathways requires repetition and therapy cycles. 39:58 Childhood experiences impact adult behavior. 43:20 Creating space between triggers and responses for anxious individuals 45:01 Communicating needs and setting expectations in a relationship can ease anxiety. 48:08 Understanding the guilt associated with being always accessible and eradicating people pleasing 49:39 Understanding the reasons behind bad relationships is crucial for change I learnt so much in this episode and found it to be so valuable! If you did too I would be so grateful if you could like and subscribe! KEEP IN TOUCH: 🌍 My website - www.shivanipau.com 📸 Instagram -   / shivani.pau   💌 Sign Up to My Community- https://shivani-pau.circle.so/join?in...