Episode 72 - EMDR for perfectionism

In this episode, Dr. Caroline Lloyd explores perfectionism not as a simple drive for high standards, but as a fear-based defense. Perfectionism often functions as protection against shame— “if I’m perfect, I won’t be criticized, rejected, or deemed not good enough”. Perfectionism often develops in childhood, and can become an exhausting adaptation that evolves into a vicious cycle: high standards yield occasional rewards and social admiration, which reinforce the behaviour even as it drains energy, and impedes relaxation and authentic performance. EMDR therapy can address the underlying shame, fear, and trauma that fuel perfectionism, and resolving these memories can reduce the compulsive drive for flawlessness.