Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81

Why do we keep attracting people who trigger our deepest wounds—even when we think we’ve done the work? In this episode, we explore why romantic partners often reflect unresolved childhood pain and how these dynamics are invitations to grow. We talk about the importance of attachment styles, trauma responses, and why many of us pendulum swing between codependency and hyper-independence. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a “should I stay or go” relationship, we share guiding principles to help you find clarity—without bypassing your own healing. You’ll also hear how heartbreak can actually open the door to deeper self-love and emotional maturity, whether you’re single or partnered. I'm joined by Sheleana Aiyana, founder of Rising Woman, who shares her story of breaking old cycles and creating conscious love. Whether you're navigating heartbreak, deepening your current relationship, or wanting to prepare for conscious love, this episode is for you. === Want one of the most Powerful Tools to Support you in Awakening & Manifesting Your Dream Life from the Inside Out (for Free)? Learn how to live to your full potential without letting fear get in the way of your dreams. ✨ Here's How to Get Your Gift: ✨ Step 1: Just head over to Apple Podcast or Spotify + leave a review now Step 2: Take a screenshot before hitting submit Step 3: Then go to alyssanobriga.com/podcast to upload it! === EPISODE TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 - Intro 01:48 - Imago Psychotherapy and Relationship Patterns 02:34 Healing Childhood Wounds in Relationships 05:29 Navigating Triggers and Nervous System Regulation 09:08 Practical Tools for Healing in Relationships 13:27 The Journey of Self-Healing and Attracting the Right Partner 21:57 Common Blocks to Conscious Relationships 27:39 Practical Tips for Managing Emotions 27:53 Understanding Fire and Water Personalities 29:08 Avoidant vs. Anxious Attachment Styles 30:44 Balancing Self and Relationship Needs 32:18 Healthy Boundaries and Communication 33:47 Personal Growth and Relationship Cycles 39:26 Deciding to Stay or Leave a Relationship 42:34 Patterns That Destroy Relationships 48:28 Navigating Heartbreak with Grace 51:43 Final Thoughts on Love and Relationships === GUEST LINKS Instagram: @risingwoman @sheleanaaiyana Website: https://risingwoman.com/ === Have you watched our previous episode titled The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success Watch on YouTube:    • The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secr...   ==== Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2023, Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - All rights reserved. === Want 3 Life-Changing Tools you can use on yourself (or your clients) from inside our Accredited Coaching Certification? Click here to get them for Free: https://www.alyssanobriga.com/tools 🎉 === Website: alyssanobriga.com Instagram: @alyssanobriga TikTok - @alyssanobriga Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/6b5s2xb... Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...