Esther Perel ON: Finding Love & the Real Reason Couples Break Up

Esther Perel talks with Jay Shetty about how the quality of our relationships affect our daily life, the right mindset when seeking love, creating a connection, or keeping a partnership, and the biggest relationship challenges during the pandemic. Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel is the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and she is also the host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? What We Discuss with Esther: 00:00 Intro 02:17 The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives 04:37 Relationship challenges while in quarantine and lockdown 08:55 Approaching a relationship at times of pressure 13:26 Resetting expectations of ourselves and boundaries of our space 18:23 When you’re putting an effort but your partner is unresponsive 22:14 Skills we lost in the pandemic and the skills we gained 27:47 Playing the ‘Where Should We Begin?’ game 33:58 Asking boring questions makes you feel that people are boring 36:48 Relationships about death, sex, and money 39:48 The intention or mindset one should approach love and relationships when seeking out a partner 42:57 From feeling madly in love to then feeling out of love, when they weren’t truly in love 45:36 What are the deepest, truest root reasons that relationships fail? 52:00 Have you been affected by the experience of infidelity in your life? 57:21 When to break up and move, when to stay and hold on 59:55 Fill in The Blanks 01:01:30 Esther on the Final Five 01:06:30 Meeting people who are truly happy and purposeful Like this show? Please leave us a review here: https://apple.co/2KQlekJ Even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Text me: 310-997-4177 Subscribe and be a part of the movement to make wisdom go viral: http://bit.ly/2n6hiQP Join the conversation by commenting below. Enroll in Genius Coaching to improve your life, deepen your relationships and find happiness every day: https://pages.jayshetty.me/genius/ Get my book Think Like a Monk today: https://thinklikeamonkbook.com/ Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk who wants to make wisdom go viral. He loves taking his own life experiences, lessons from his time as a monk, and truths he has learned to make others’ lives better. Follow me on Social Media: Facebook:   / jayshettyiw   Twitter:   / jayshettyiw   Instagram:   / jayshetty   LinkedIn:   / shettyjay   Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/jayshettyiw/ Sign up for my Viral Wisdom Newsletter: https://jayshetty.me/email