Why the Complementarian Bar for Men is in the Basement: Philip Yancey, Jonathan Pokluda, and more

We're tackling three really problematic things that have happened recently with evangelical leaders that show just how low the bar has gotten for men. From Jonathan Podluka announcing he wants to sleep with multiple beautiful women, to pastors responding to Philip Yancey's affair by saying "it could be any of us," to Tim Challies telling people in miserable marriages to just stick it out until they die—it's all connected to this theology that refuses to hold men accountable and tells women they just need to accept it. The common thread? A theology of male hierarchy that steals intimacy from marriages, justice from victims, and Jesus from people who are hurting. *SUBSCRIBE TO GOOD FRUIT FAITH* For our Love & Respect podcast coming February 5:    / @goodfruitfaith   *THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT* Our marriage book that counteracts toxic teaching: https://amzn.to/3LMtGBy The study guide that goes with it: https://amzn.to/4qxupWl The video series that goes with it: https://bakerbookhouse.com/pages/shei... *TO SUPPORT US* Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work   / baremarriage   Donate through the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation: https://baremarriage.com/give-through... And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/ SIGN UP for our weekly emails--Rebecca writes them, and they're amazing! https://baremarriage.com/join-the-new... *LINKS MENTIONED* Tim Challies' article on if you chose poorly: https://www.challies.com/articles/to-... My article about Philip Yancey: https://open.substack.com/pub/baremar... My reel with the clips of Jonathan Pokluda: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTeLEp... Sheila's Baptist News article about Jonathan Podluka’s 2023 sermon: https://baptistnews.com/article/can-p... And my new op ed about his recent comments: https://baptistnews.com/article/why-i... Sarah Diefendorf's peer-reviewed articles about men's accountability groups: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/... My recommended books on walking through porn problems: https://www.amazon.com/shop/sheilawra... *TIMELINE* 00:00 Introduction & Overview 1:24 Docuseries Announcement! Happily Never After: The Curious Case of Love & Respect 2:27 Jonathan Pokluda: "I Want to Sleep with Multiple Beautiful Women" 10:33 The 2023 Sermon Clip: When a "Perfect" Woman Propositioned Him 13:30 Bro Culture & Masculinity as Conquest 26:58 Philip Yancey's Affair & Problematic Pastor Reactions 32:40 Sin Leveling & "It Could Be Any of Us" 43:12 Tim Challies: "To Those Who Married Poorly" 53:48 Why Complementarians Can’t Give Helpful Marriage Advice 1:02:38 Wrap-up & Resources