On Letting Things Go: Why “Just Let It Go” Doesn’t Work — and What Does | Abi Beri

Let it go. Three words you have heard, in one form or another, your entire life — from parents, partners, friends, therapists, books, the algorithm. And if you are honest with yourself, you have probably experienced what is one of the small universal humiliations of modern adult life. You have nodded politely. You have agreed that yes, you should let it go. You have then, in private, completely failed to let it go. And you have wondered, very quietly, what is wrong with you that this thing everyone keeps telling you to do is, evidently, beyond your ability. Nothing is wrong with you. This long somatic talk argues something most teachers have not been honest about: letting go is not something you do. It is not an action. It is not a decision. It is not an intention. Letting go is what becomes possible when the body finally feels safe enough to stop holding. It is the result of conditions, not the result of will. And the entire industry that has built itself around telling you to just let it go has been, very gently, asking you to perform something that, by its nature, cannot be performed. I’m Abi Beri — Integrative Therapist and Nervous System Specialist, working in Dublin, Naas, Newbridge and online worldwide. In this somatic talk: • – Why the standard advice doesn’t work — and what it has been confused with • – Suppression, performance and intention: the three things people try (and why none of them are letting go) • – Where the holding actually lives in the body — resentment in the jaw, grief in the chest, shame in the belly, ungrieved anger in the upper arms • – Why the body holds in the first place — and what it would take for that holding to ease • – What actually allows release: building the conditions in which the body can finally exhale, in its own time For everyone who has been quietly failing at the one piece of advice the entire culture seems to agree on. You are not failing. You have been given the wrong instruction. 🎧 Headphones recommended. Best listened to slowly, in one sitting. 📌 somatictherapyireland.com | blissfulevolution.com Looking for somatic therapy in Dublin, Naas, Newbridge or online from anywhere in Ireland or the world — for the slow building of the conditions in which the body can actually ease its grip? That is one of the central lanes of my one-to-one practice. More at somatictherapyireland.com. #OnLettingThingsGo #WhyCantILetGo #SomaticTherapy #LettingGo #LettingGoSomatic #SomaticTherapyDublin #SomaticTherapyIreland #SomaticTherapistDublin #HoldingInTheBody #ChronicResentment #UngrievedGrief #NervousSystemRegulation #PolyvagalTheory #PeterLevine #BesselVanDerKolk #InnerChildWork #FamilyConstellations #BodyBasedTherapy #IICPDublin #AbiBeri