Does Unrequited Love Mean the Love Wasn't Real? ft. Tanerélle

Thanks to Stasis for sponsoring this video. Hold your stimulant to a higher standard — go to https://yt.link/K1ZEZNN and use code LOVERS for 15% off your first order. I'm sharing this in my personal capacity. Always speak with your own healthcare provider about what's right for you. #ad #StasisPartner *These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. ——— Tanerélle is a singer-songwriter whose voice sits somewhere between neo-soul and quiet revelation, with singles like feels like love and Nothing Without You building a devoted audience around the specific ache of loving someone more than they love you back. In this episode, she and Shan trace the song feels like love from its origin — a late-night phone call with an ex that felt like home until Tanerélle realized she was the only one feeling it — through the larger question of what it means to be someone's muse instead of their person, and why those two things can feel identical from the inside until they don't. They also talk about what OCD and rumination actually do inside a relationship when safety isn't there, the slow way gender roles and social conditioning closed the door on the free version of herself she showed up as early on, and the specific kind of loneliness that comes from being the one who always reaches out first. This one is for anyone who has ever loved out loud in a situation that didn't love them back the same way and wondered whether that still counted as real. CHAPTERS 00:00 Trailer 00:54 Help Us Hit 300K 01:22 It's My Birthday, and I Chose This 02:23 The Sex Comfort Epiphany 06:00 Do You Love Me, or Muse Me? 11:16 Help Us Grow 12:33 Feels Like Love 13:17 The Story Behind the Song 18:25 What Does That Loneliness Feel Like? 21:45 Choosing Your Own Meaning 22:38 This Was Supposed to Be 24:57 Two Kinds of Lonely 28:14 Queer, Mused, and Playing By Rules Nobody Wrote 31:23 The Nosy Question 31:53 "I Never Really Got to Be Myself" 32:23 The Dance Floor Story 35:15 The Freedom to Be 40:55 I'm Not Shrinking 42:48 Before We Continue 44:01 Puppy Blues 47:07 The Beauty of an Honest Breakup 48:00 Love Should Feel Like Your Best Friend 50:55 Ruminating My Way Through Love 52:01 What Love Doesn't Feel Like 53:13 The Angel of Detachment 56:19 Next Era Follow Tanerélle Instagram:   / tanerelle   YouTube:    / @tanerelle   TikTok:   / tanerelle   Feels like love: https://open.spotify.com/track/6N5i4a... Want more LOVERS? Follow Shan on Instagram →   / shanboodram   Get a free weekly Love Letter from Shan → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: [email protected]