Why S*x Hurts After 50 — And What to Actually Do About It | Ep. 175

If s*x has started to hurt, feel awkward, or quietly disappear — this episode is for you. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly what happens to our bodies as we age and why pain during sex is never something you should push through or normalize. Hormones shift, tissues change, muscles tighten, and positions that once felt effortless suddenly don't work the same way. None of that means your sex life is over — it means it's time to adapt. I'm also sharing the tools that are genuinely making a difference: quality lube (not all lube is created equal), pelvic floor PT, and a positioning pillow that I personally use and love — the Prim Pillow by Tabu. I walk you through exactly how I use it, what it does for hip elevation and deep penetration comfort, and why it might be the missing piece for you. Great s*x in midlife isn't about forcing your body to work like it did at 30. It's about working with the body you have now — with more communication, more creativity, and yes, more pleasure. Pain doesn't have to be your story. Let's talk about it. In this episode: 00:00 - Introduction: Pain With Sex Is Not Normal 00:22 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth 00:47 - What Karen Is Covering Today 01:30 - Sex After 50 — A Different but Better Conversation 02:00 - What Actually Changes in Your Body as You Age 02:51 - Why Pain During Sex Is Never Something to Tolerate 03:02 - Tools That Help: Lube, Pelvic Floor PT & Communication 03:28 - Introducing the Prim Pillow by Taboo 04:42 - How to Use the Prim Pillow: Hip Elevation & Positioning 05:54 - Why Lube Matters & the PJUR Med Sensitive Recommendation 06:45 - Positioning Tips: Angles, Comfort & Communication 07:14 - Sex Doesn't Expire — It Evolves 07:55 - You Deserve Intimacy That Feels Good at Every Age 08:13 - Resources, Outro & Where to Find Karen 🔗 Resources mentioned: Pain-Free Sex resources: https://www.taboototruth.com/post/agi... Prim Pillow by Tabu: https://www.heytabu.com Pjure Lube (PJUR Med Sensitive Water-Based): https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-3719... 📌 Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Follow Karen Bigman: Instagram:   / taboototruth   TikTok:   / taboototruth   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?... LinkedIn:   / karenbigman   Website: http://taboototruth.com Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Subscribe to Taboo To Truth:    / @taboototruthpodcast   — Listen to The Taboo To Truth Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Tuesday! Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2OHcG2U... Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast... DISCLAIMER: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. This content is created for educational and informational purposes only. It is designed to provide viewers with knowledge and insights about intimacy, relationships, communication, and sexual wellness. This video does not depict or promote sexual acts for the purpose of sexual gratification. All discussions are conducted in a respectful, professional, and sex-positive context to encourage healthy, safe, and informed conversations. I have hand-selected some great products to help support your s//xual wellness. Purchasing products from me and/or my affiliates helps support the work that I do and ensures I can continue to help as many people and couples as possible! #intimacyexpert #intimacycoach #MenopauseAndSex #PainfulSex #MidlifeSex