When She’s Triggered, Don’t Make It Worse

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 In Episode 26, JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome betrayal‑trauma specialist Laura Mangin‑McDonald to continue unpacking what to do—and what not to do—when your wife is triggered by past sexual betrayal. Laura shares 12 things men commonly do that accidentally re‑trigger their wives, including explaining too fast, logic‑fixing, harsh tone, defensive posture, and standing over her, and offers clear alternatives anchored in attunement, softness, and presence. You’ll learn: Why rushing to explain, argue details, or correct her memory backfires when her nervous system is flooded—and how simply meeting her in her pain becomes a building block of trust. How tone, facial expressions, body language, and even pacing can feel physically intimidating or dismissive after betrayal, even if you’ve never been violent. How to show up as a man who listens, slows down, and stays emotionally present, so your responses help soothe rather than re‑injure your wife’s traumatised heart. 🎟 Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 to save $100 when you register for the Every Man’s Battle Intensive, and ask about Restore for wives and New Life recovery groups so both of you have support as you heal. 📧 𝐁𝐎𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓 & 𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐄𝐑 𝐐𝐔𝐄𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒 Want extra content to encourage your integrity, delivered via email each month? 👉 Email [email protected] with “Bonus Content” in the subject line. To send questions or topic requests for next season: 👉 Email [email protected] with “Podcast Question” in the subject line. ☎️ Need help learning these skills in your own marriage? 👉 Call 800‑NEW‑LIFE or visit NewLife.com for: Sexual integrity counseling for men. Every Man’s Battle intensives. Restore workshops for wives experiencing betrayal trauma. Ongoing couples and recovery groups. 🎟 𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐏𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐓𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐀𝐅𝐓𝐄𝐑 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐒 𝐄𝐏𝐈𝐒𝐎𝐃𝐄 If this episode exposed how often you accidentally re‑trigger your wife: Attend the Every Man’s Battle Intensive 3‑day, counselor‑led workshop for men seeking freedom from porn, affairs, and sexual addiction. Helps you understand betrayal, your wife’s trauma, and how to rebuild trust through concrete actions, not just words. Invite your wife to Restore A 3‑day intensive for women affected by betrayal, offering trauma‑informed tools, community, and a safe setting to process pain. Join an ongoing group. New Life’s men’s recovery and Life Recovery groups give you weekly practice in awareness, attunement, and integrity so you can keep growing between episodes and workshops. Scholarships and payment assistance are often available; ask when you call 800‑NEW‑LIFE. Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 to save $100 when you register for Every Man’s Battle. 🎧 Listen & subscribe: 👉 Every Man’s Battle Podcast hub: https://newlife.com/podcasts/every-ma... 👉 New Life LIVE & other New Life podcasts: https://newlife.com/podcasts/ #EveryMansBattle #BetrayalTrauma #WhenShesTriggered #Attunement #SexualIntegrity #NewLifeMinistries