How to Speak your Partner's Love Language

Join my FREE Live Online Class about using Orgasmic Energy to Manifest Money https://go.laurieanne.com/1Dq_ Building on the last episode about the 5 Love Languages, Laurie-Anne digs into what to do if you find that you and your partner speak totally different love languages. Enjoy this episode? Then you'll love the free online classes Laurie-Anne teaches. Sign up here: www.laurieanne.com/cyq Welcome to Love Smarter! The show for millennial women who want extraordinary love and aren’t afraid to learn for it. Whether you are single, dating, in a relationship or married, you’ll benefit from the lessons taught on Love Smarter on topics like communication, sex, personal development, and femininity. If you like this video, comment, like, share, and subscribe to LA King TV. ♥ On the go? Subscribe to MY PODCAST: http://apple.co/1NsSWrK ✔ WEBSITE: www.laurieanne.com ✔ FACEBOOK:   / laurieannekingcoach   ✔ TWITTER:   / laurieanneking   ✔ SUBSCRIBE: http://bit.ly/1VVxCOf ✔ WATCH PREVIOUS EPISODE HERE:    • What are Love Languages and Which One do y...   ✔ WATCH NEXT EPISODE HERE:    • How to get more Love in Your Relationship ...   Are you and your partner speaking the same language? In today’s episode you’ll learn what to do if you and your partner speak different love languages. If you missed the last episode where I introduced the 5 Love Languages, you are going to want to go watch that before you watch this one. We all give and receive love in different ways. The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a helpful book for understanding how you prefer to give to and receive love. The 5 Love Languages he covers are: 1) Words of affirmation 2) Physical Touch 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Quality time So what do you do if you find yourself in a relationship where you and your partner speak totally different languages? Are you doomed? Not at all! It is very common to be attracted to someone who speaks a different love language. Many couples find themselves speaking different languages. Even if you and your partner do speak the same love language , it’s still likely that you speak different dialects and will benefit from learning exactly how your partner likes their love served. So if you and your partner speak totally different love languages, don’t despair! You just need to be willing to do three things: 1) Learn a new love language 2) Teach your partner how to speak your love language 3) Reward progress not perfection 1) Learn a new love language You must be willing to learn a new love language in order to love your partner in the way that’s most meaningful to them. This doesn’t mean that you should stop demonstrating your love in a way that’s most natural to you. It’s additive. You will now have more ways to express love. The result is net positive, with more love going around the relationship. Learning a new love language or dialect has nothing to do with changing who you are or becoming something you’re not for the sake of the relationship. It’s simply a new skill. If you want the kind of relationship that gets better and better over time - you must be willing to grow and develop new skills. To me, the idea that these different ways of communicating and expressing love are like different languages is a really really brilliant analogy. Let’s say you’re in native English speaker and you were to fall in love with a person who speaks French. If they asked you to learn some French, would you say “stop trying to change me. You knew I spoke English when you met me” ? Probably not!If you really love your partner you want to do whatever it takes so that they know that and that they feel that often. Even if it requires some new actions on your part. The new love language you are trying to learn might feel really unnatural to you. For example, let’s say your partner’s love languages is gifts, and you almost never buy people gifts or pay attention to things like birthdays or anniversaries. It is going to take real intentionality to master the skill of gift giving. In the beginning, you might need to ask her to make a list of gifts she would enjoy getting, or ask her friends what kind of gift would make her day.. Keep a running list of gift ideas and any time she mentions something she likes write it down. #CYQ