MJ on Divorce, Identity & Rebuilding After the Break (Ep 40)

In this raw and heartfelt update episode of Heal 2 Feel, Mercedes “MJ” Javid joins Liat in the hot seat to talk about the very real aftermath of filing for divorce from Tommy after seven years of marriage. MJ opens up about the grief that comes with ending a marriage — the emotional weight of packing up a life, sorting through memories, and navigating the logistics of moving while protecting her energy and staying strong for Shams. Liat and MJ also unpack the deeper layers: loneliness inside a relationship, the silent treatment, emotional disconnection, and why “staying together for the kids” can sometimes teach the wrong definition of love. Through it all, MJ shares what’s surprised her most about this new chapter — including how she already feels lighter, clearer, and more like herself again. This episode is a reminder that sometimes the bravest thing you can do is choose your peace — even when it’s painful — and trust that life on the other side will meet you with something better. Follow the show: @h2fpod Rate & review: Apple Podcasts + Spotify (it helps more than you know!) Share with a friend who needs a little courage right now. Timestamps 00:00 MJ on “rediscovering everything” in this new chapter 00:15 Welcome + MJ in the hot seat 00:53 MJ filed for divorce from Tommy (7 years) 01:13 Divorce grief: “It’s like a death… but they’re still there” 01:37 The reality of moving + leaving the family home 02:57 A home as a “live photo album” 03:00 Sorting memories, donating, and the emotional weight of purging 04:20 The marriage timeline + shared history in their homes 05:20 Protecting Shams emotionally + what he’s noticing so far 05:37 Liat asks: do you have regrets? 06:02 MJ on trying for a long time + feeling disrespected 07:44 Did you outgrow each other? The breaking point 07:51 Apathy, isolation, and feeling taken for granted 08:12 “Lonely in the relationship” 09:06 Staying “for the wrong reasons” 09:32 Liat: why “stay together for the kids” can backfire (subconscious conditioning) 10:33 Why kids want happy parents — and how divorce is handled matters 12:18 The loneliest years + reaching for emotional connection 13:47 Specific example: weekends, sports, and feeling shut out 15:54 The “golf course” dynamic and unmet emotional needs 16:47 Liat reflects on the cycle of shutdown + numbing 17:33 Kabbalah concept: when one grows and the other doesn’t 18:06 MJ: Tommy doesn’t see his part yet (still raw) 19:05 Logistics + co-parenting in the middle of the move 19:59 Halloween setback + how arguments still show up 20:31 Liat: MJ seems lighter already 21:24 “Higher vibration” + attracting new opportunities 22:28 MJ on protecting her energy through the process 23:15 Grief, love, and accepting “we’re not good together” 24:19 The reality of moving chaos (deliveries, exhaustion, survival mode) 25:16 Liat: MJ’s glow + “500 bricks off your back” 26:08 MJ: fear, judgment, and making sure Shams is okay 27:31 How Shams is handling two homes so far 28:06 Working together on the move — amicable overall 29:11 Public reaction + how fast it moved 29:28 Advice for anyone scared to leave 30:06 “This needed to happen no matter what” 31:13 Purging a house = purging your life 31:59 MJ stops late-night shopping (no longer filling the void) 32:48 Liat: shifting from surviving to living 33:12 “2026 MJ is coming back to life” 33:40 Closing + parting words 33:59 Outro + how to submit questions + rate/review