The Covert Narcissist--A Wolf in Sheep's Clothing

If you've met a covert narcissist, then you've likely left that relationship feeling duped! Not just betrayed, but conned. Covert narcissist is like a wolf in sheep's clothing. In this episode, Elena Sagredos, author of "But They’re So Nice," joins me to talk about the deceptiveness of covert abuse. We often miss the signs we’ve met a covert narcissism behind their guise of niceness, only later to discover their extreme duplicity. To learn more about Eleni, you can follow her here: TikTok:   / nonarcsense   Instagram:   / no_narcsense   To purchase her book: But They’re So Nice: https://amzn.to/3wLBMTH Eleni Sagredos is an abuse educator and a certified Domestic Violence Advocate with a passion for raising awareness about covert abuse and domestic violence. She is the author of the book "But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse & Narcissistic People," which sheds light on the insidious nature of emotional and psychological abuse often overlooked or minimized. Eleni is most active on TikTok, where she shares her insights, experiences, and resources to help others recognize the dynamics and tactics in abusive relationships. ******************* Did you know you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix? For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras! Join me either on Substack or Ko-fi! Same great content in 2 different places: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphd Follow Dr. McAvoy! YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphd Instagram: @kerrymcavoyphd Facebook: @kerrymcavoyphd E-mail: [email protected] Newsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substac... or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphd Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissistica... Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. *************************************** IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. DISCLAIMER: All content and information on this website is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute mental health advice. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for professional advice, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in the area for your particular needs and circumstances before making any professional, legal, medical, financial, or tax-related decisions. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction 01:00 Meet Eleni Sagredos 01:50 Understanding Covert Abuse 02:50 Personal Experiences with Abuse 04:00 The Journey to Understanding Abuse 07:00 Recognizing Coercive Control 08:00 The Importance of Listening to Your Body 09:00 Signs of Covert Abuse 10:24 Cultural Acceptance of Covert Abusiveness 11:14 Seeing Red Flags in Hindsight 12:00 Managing Shame of the Abuse 16:00 Mistaking Sympathy for Empathy 18:18 Betrayal Trauma 19:05 Women Covert Narcissists 19:27 Do Covert Narcissists Love? 20:50 Duped by a Covert Narcissist 21:08 The Difficulty Spotting Female Narcissists 25:12 Explanation of Behavior is Never Simple 26:00 Concluding Thoughts