The TRUTH About Safewords, Aftercare & BDSM

Looking for more info mentioned in this video? My social media? How to support this channel? Just click "show more" below! ヽ(´･ω･`)､ ▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬ ▼▼▼ SUPPORT AND SUBSCRIBE ▼▼▼ Subscribe to my channel:    / evielupine   My Patreon:   / evielupine   & For 1:1 Chats, Advice & Video Calls:   / evielupine2   Twitter: @EvieLupine Watch me LIVE on Twitch!   / evielupine   Want Even MORE BDSM Education? Check Out Dom Sub Living*: https://evielupine--domsubliving.thri... https://evielupine--domsubliving.thri... FREE resource Library: https://evielupine--domsubliving.thri... My BDSM Merch Store: https://teespring.com/stores/evie-lupine Business Inquiries ONLY: [email protected] [DO NOT SEND YOUR PERSONAL QUESTIONS HERE] ▼▼▼ RELATED VIDEOS ▼▼▼ The Trouble with Safewords:    • No Safeword is Not an Excuse: The Trouble ...   How to Say No & Set Boundaries:    • How to Say No: Setting Boundaries During S...   Making Consent Fun & Easy:    • Yes, Consent Can be SEXY! (or just fun and...   Using a Yes / No / Maybe Checklist:    • Using a Yes / No / Maybe List for BDSM   Enthusiastic Consent:    • The Problem With "Enthusiastic" Consent   The FRIES Model of Consent:    • The FRIES Model of Consent & BDSM   How to Stay Safe While Exploring BDSM & Meeting People! :    • How to Stay Safe While Exploring BDSM & Me...   ▼▼▼ VIDEO INFORMATION ▼▼▼ FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY. All of my videos are intended to provide safety information for adults that choose to engage in these activities as well as combat stereotypes and misinformation. In addition, these videos may contain educational commentary on queer issues, pop culture, and news items. No portion of my content is meant to be used for gratification, nor is it intentionally salacious. In today's video, we'll be discussing a recent series of viral tweets about the BDSM community. Why do safewords exist? Is BDSM connected to toxic sex culture? Is aftercare basically the honeymoon phase? Is doing scenes a way of trauma bonding? There's been a LOT of discussion around these topics. And while I don't think many of the original folks sharing their thoughts are really open to changing their minds, there is a conversation worth having here for those curious. I have done my best to censor the names of all involved, so PLEASE do not pester anyone involved in this on Twitter or on other social media. 00:00 - introduction 02:19 - the criminal tweets 03:32 - common stereotypes of BDSM 07:23 - what is a safeword? 12:02 - body language & check-ins 14:54 - communication errors 18:12 - language is confusing 19:49 - is this r* culture? 23:41 - what is aftercare? 24:59 - is aftercare... bad? 26:22 - everyday aftercare experiences 30:10 - IPV vs. aftercare 31:16 - leave this in the 80s 34:07 - shame and understanding 35:36 - final thoughts ▼▼▼ EVERYTHING ELSE ▼▼▼ Art by: @animositi on Instagram Credits/Attribution (Music): Artist: Audionautix Website: http://audionautix.com/ Track: Transportation Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution license (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/) All content used falls within fair use guidelines for education and commentary purposes. = affiliate link ▼▼▼ P.O BOX ▼▼▼ Evie Lupine 4233 SE 182nd Ave 357 Gresham, OR 97030