When Your Partner Isn't in the Mood | The Maintenance Sex Talk

Maintenance sex is the concept of having sex with a partner who you love, in order to strengthen the relationship and improve intimacy – even when you might not be in the mood for it yourself. BOOK A SESSION ▶▶▶ https://laurahow.com/online-counselling/ It is something you are willing to do for the health of the relationship, to feel connected with and to care for your partner and it is a mutual decision made by both of you. It is an effective and hopefully temporary strategy for a couple to manage discrepancies in sexual desire which are perfectly natural and normal. It is a way to prioritise your partner and the relationship. It facilitates bonding, fosters intimacy and encourages open conversation. It should be enjoyable for both partners. ▼FOLLOW ME▼ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor Twitter → https://twitter.com/laurahow ▶GET IN TOUCH◀ Website: https://laurahow.com/contact/ ▶BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS◀ Website: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ ▼ ⌚️Timestamps ▼ ──────────── 0:00 – The Honeymoon Phase 1:00 – Sex is Important 2:22 – Why Partners Withdraw 3:55 – Deciding to Change 4:44 – What is Maintenance Sex? 5:44 – Avoidance Goal Sex 6:33 – Approach Goal Sex 7:43 – Scheduling Sex 8:33 – Extending Yourself 10:27 - Open Communication 11:14 – The Power of Intimacy ──────────── References: 1. Healthy Effects of Sex The Journal of Sexual Medicine, Volume 20, Issue Supplement_1, May 2023, qdad060.431, https://doi.org/10.1093/jsxmed/qdad060.431 2. Declines in Sexual Activity and Function Predict Incident Health Problems in Older Adults https://www.news-medical.net/news/20190902... 3. Connection Between Depression, Sexual Frequency, and All-cause Mortality: Findings from a Nationally Representative Study https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/2... 4. Getting it on versus getting it over with: Sexual motivation, desire, and satisfaction in intimate bonds. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 39(10), 1320–1332. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167213490963 5. Maintaining sexual desire in intimate relationships: the importance of approach goals https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18444740/ #relationshipneeds #relationships #sex