Por qué el embarazo y la maternidad están idealizados I Del Divorcio Se Sale #26

Welcome to a new episode of You Can Get Through Divorce! Today we're joined by Macarena Montenegro, an Argentinian psychologist and Gestalt therapist based in Andorra, and founder of the Migrating Motherhood community. In a very honest and unfiltered conversation, Macarena dismantles the extreme romanticization of pregnancy and parenting, addressing the "heavy" side that no one talks about: the loneliness, extreme exhaustion, and loss of identity that many women experience when they become mothers. We delve into the enormous challenge of raising your children far from your home country and your family support network (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.), which multiplies the mental load and sometimes makes screens the only respite. We also analyze how the arrival of a child completely transforms a couple's relationship (and their sexuality), the key role men must play to truly take over, and the importance of new mothers ceasing to put too much pressure on themselves and learning to ask for help. 📚 NEW RELEASE! My book, "You Can Get Through Divorce," is now available. A very personal project in which I draw on more than 20 years of experience supporting people through their breakups, discussing rights, but also fears, guilt, and how to start over. You can get it in bookstores or through the link below! Link: bit.ly/4szauH8 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss our upcoming interviews and discussions. 💬 Leave us a comment: Have you felt alone raising your children, or do you think motherhood is too idealized? We'd love to hear from you! ➡️ MACARENA MONTENEGRO'S SOCIAL MEDIA / Instagram: @maternarmigrando ➡️ ELENA'S SOCIAL MEDIA / Instagram: @elena.crespo.lorenzo Website(s): https://www.elenacrespolorenzo.com/ My law firm: https://www.crespolaw.es/ ⏰ CONTENTS: 00:00 - Podcast Introduction 00:54 - Announcement: My book "You Can Get Over Divorce" is now available! 01:32 - Introduction and welcome to Macarena Montenegro 02:12 - What is "Maternar Migrando"? 05:22 - Migration shock: Language, adaptation, and the lack of a support network 08:08 - The romanticization of motherhood and pregnancy 12:45 - The mental load and the complete lack of support in migrant parenting 17:35 - The importance of self-care and reclaiming your own identity 21:50 - Extreme fatigue, stress, and daily frustration 25:50 - How the arrival of children transforms and challenges a couple's relationship 29:30 - Overprotective women vs. men who must assume their role at home 33:50 - Mini meditation and the need to listen to ourselves 38:00 - Screen time in parenting: A tool for respite or demonization? 41:40 - The nostalgia of raising children away from grandparents and cultural differences 45:50 - Boundaries and physical intrusions by strangers towards mothers 49:50 - Advice for first-time mothers 53:40 - The imperative need for rest for mothers and shared responsibility 56:10 - Farewell and podcast closing #elenacrespo #youcanovercomedivorce #divorce