মা বাবা যে ৬ টি ভুল করলে সন্তান মা বাবাকে ঘৃণা করে | PARENTING STYLE | AMALESH DAS | #parentadvice

Why would a child hate a LOVING parent? PARENTING STYLE | AMALESH DAS #childrearing #facts #parentfacts #motivation #parenteducation #parentadvice #love #parentingexpert I don't hate my parents but I don't like them either. Earlier in my life I loved my mom so much and always thought that situation are not like that she is busy and doesn't have time for me. But as I grew up I don't like her because I feel that she doesn't know who I am and doesn't even have time to fullfil even the basic emotional needs.whenever I ask her why doesn't she takes time out she says “ I give you everything you need” but that's not the point.even after giving me everything I still need her badly in my life. She has Time for Everything but not for me So that is why I stopped giving an extra effort to make her feel better No child is born hating their parents. If your children hate you, some introspection as to how you’ve treated the child might be in order. Don’t raise your child to be a weirdo, compared to the surrounding culture. Remember, they’re going to have to leave home and stand on their own two feet as an adult. Don’t force them to choose between being able to get along outside the home and being able to get along with you. Don’t scream, rant, and put the child down. Behaving that way forces the child to choose between you and their own self-respect. Children who choose the abusive parent will grow up to be codependent and easy prey for abusive people out in the world. Children who choose their own self-respect will grow to have nothing but contempt for the tantrum-throwing overgrown child who is their so-called “parent”. Don’t expect them to behave like miniature adults (a young child sitting quietly for hours on end, for instance). A child should not be lectured or disciplined for behaving in a developmentally appropriate way. Your children are not unpaid in-house therapists. Save your tales of woe and unresolved personal issues for a REAL therapist. Your 9 year-old daughter should not be sitting there listening to you complain about your sex life with her father or other such intimate, grown-up matters. (And really, who wants to hear that kind of stuff from their parents at all? Yuck.) Display sound judgment and good critical thinking skills. Doing otherwise will force your child to choose between their respect for you and their desire to make good choices in life. If they choose the former, they will have all kinds of dysfunctional beliefs and ideas, which will grow into dysfunctional behaviors as an adult. If they choose the latter they will grow to view you as a fool, and frankly, they won’t be wrong. Encourage age-appropriate responsibilities and independence. Unless the child is ill, do not do things for the child that the child is big enough and strong enough to do for themselves. Model age-appropriate responsibilities and independence, yourself. Don’t attempt to push your own chores, duties, and obligations off onto your children, they will grow to resent you for it and view you as weak, childish, and pathetic. Model healthy values and appropriate prosocial behaviors. Your kids can see you pretending to be the neighbor lady’s friend to her face, and then hear you badmouthing and ranting about the neighbor lady behind her back. Is this kind of two-faced, hypercritical behavior something you want them to learn? They hear you calling your boss and telling him/her how sick you are, and then see you spending the day doing fun things and not sick at all. Is this kind of self-serving dishonesty something you want your children to learn? One of two things will happen. They will absorb your crappy, contemptible behavior and become a crappy, contemptible person too, or they will reject that behavior (and along with it, learn contempt for you).