Why You Can't Stop the Behavior You Hate (It's Meeting a Need)

Why do you keep overworking, overexplaining, people-pleasing, or staying too long in situations you know aren't right for you? It's not weakness. It's not a character flaw. It's a need. In this episode of Embrace Your Value, Jen Anderson and Kristen Burrus sit down for a real, unscripted conversation about the six core human needs that drive pretty much every behavior we have — the ones we understand and the ones we can't quite explain. They dig into why certainty-seeking and significance-seeking show up constantly in high-capacity women, how people-pleasing creates proximity without actual intimacy, why naming a pattern isn't always enough to change it, and what question gets underneath the behavior to the real wound. This one isn't a lesson. It's a conversation — and it might be the most honest one you hear this week. One question to carry with you: What need am I trying to meet, and what is it costing me to meet it this way? Contact us at [email protected] Learn more about Kristen here: Instagram enlighten_services Website www.kristenburrus.com Facebook enlighten_services Learn more about Jen here: https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ @thankfulheartscoaching on Facebook @the.jennifer.anderson on Instagram [email protected] #thankfulheartscoaching #embraceyourvalue #humanneeds #selfawareness #boundaries #midlifewomen #traumainformed