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Artem Karpavichus is a practicing psychologist, Master's degree (Department of Psychotherapy and Psychological Counseling), and author. Description for Artem Karpavichus: Geltek Sunscreen Moisturizing Fluid with SPF 50+ — https://ozon.onelink.me/SNMZ/1lm694bu Promo code KARPAVICHUS for a 10% discount on the entire Geltek product range. 📌 Additional content on my website: https://karpavichus.com https://karpavichus.com https://karpavichus.com 📕 MY BOOK "Break Up, Can't Stay" (AST) — available in any bookstore, on WB, and Litres https://www.litres.ru/book/artem-karp... "I don't want my husband. He's a good father; it's convenient, comfortable, and safe with him." But I'm no longer sexually attracted to him." This is precisely the experience women in long-term relationships often face. They want sex, but not with him. Why does this happen? Why do relationships that began with passion gradually devolve into routine, habit, and marital boredom? And the main question: is it possible to rekindle desire—or is it sometimes more honest to admit that the couple has long lived like roommates paying a mortgage together? In this lecture, we will examine the three main reasons why sex in marriage disappears. The first is too much "us" and almost no two separate "Is": partners become fused, losing personal boundaries, and with them, erotic distance disappears. The second is accumulated and unspoken resentments that turn into physical avoidance: "Don't touch me, I don't want anything." The third is boredom and loss of novelty, when security completely displaces risk, interest, and inner excitement. We'll also discuss why anxious couples are especially quick to eliminate uncertainty in relationships, the dangers of completely absorbing yourself in your partner, and what to do if you want to preserve not only your marriage but also your vibrant sexual desire. Enjoy watching! I'd be grateful for your likes — they help the channel grow 😉 ⏱ Timestamps (Episodes) 00:00 Introduction: "I don't want a husband, but I want sex" 00:36 Integration: Geltek SPF-50 sunscreen fluid 01:54 Why sexual problems are a common request from family psychologists 02:55 Reason #1: Too many "we"s and not enough "I"s 03:48 How sex becomes a chore and "on-duty orgasms" 04:32 Why desire requires space between partners 05:28 An example of a couple who are completely "stuck together" 06:50 How life without distance and without sex ends 07:45 Summary of the first reason: too many "we," almost no "I" 07:50 Reason #2: Accumulated and unspoken grievances 08:33 Incorrect distance: when there is too much "we" between partners Resentment and Revenge 08:50 Why Emotional Pain Triggers Physical Avoidance 09:27 Reason #3: Lack of Novelty and Marital Boredom 10:13 How Risk and Uncertainty Are Traded for Security 11:00 "The Marriage of Figaro" and Habit Instead of Passion 11:44 Why Other People's Attention Can Restore a Feeling of Desirability 12:20 Anxious Couples: How Security Kills Sexual Energy 13:38 Three Reasons Why Sex Disappears in Marriage 14:08 Practical Recommendations from a Psychologist 14:20 Why You Shouldn't Lose Yourself for the Sake of a Common "We" 15:09 How to Fight Boredom and See Your Partner Again 16:24 What to Do with Accumulated Resentments 16:53 Conclusion of the Lecture See you next Saturday at 10:00! 👍 (Remember the LIKE? ?? :) Lecture produced by: Script, presenter - Artem Karpavichus https://karpavichus.com Video design, SFX, VFX - Sasha Pareto https://t.me/sasha_pareto #psychology #artemkarpavichus #relationships #marriage #sexinmarriage #don'twantahusband #maritalboredom #relationshippsychology #familypsychology #sexualdesire #crisisinmarriage #emotionalintimacy